yes, I knew of his background when I married him, but I guess I was being naive, or maybe empathetic, I thought everybody deserves a second chance. We dated over a year, then lived together 6 months before we married. His parole officer made many surprise visits in that time, always carrying a bottle for a specimen to test him for drugs. Clean every time. We married, and the surprise visits continued, all hours of the day and night, he tested clean, kept the same job the whole time, got promoted, and two years after we married, his parole officer was so impressed, he took him off supervised parole, (no more surprise visits), but he was to keep his nose clean as he was still on paper. I started noticing small changes in his behavior, but he still had his job, and I thought maybe he was just having a hard time at work or something was bothering him. I have never been around drug users before, and was naive to the signs. I ended up in the hosp for 10 days, had to have emergency surgery. During one of his visits to me, my Dr. was in the room. The next day the Dr. asked me if he was on drugs, that is when I really began to think about his behavior, and what it might mean. He did something really bizarre the next day, and that is when I asked him if he was back on drugs. He admitted it to me. I was released two days later, at home, he told me that the pull of the meth was too strong, that he picked me because he knew I didn't do drugs and would help him stay straight. Then he told me that two days after his parole officer signed him off, he called his old buddies and got back on the drugs, but didn't deal. This is why I believe it was fraud, he used me to stay clean so he could get off parole, I think he had it planned from the beginning. Any non drug using female would have done, it just happened to be me. As soon as he no longer had a babysitter, er...parole officer, he was right back into his old behavior. Now he is clean, but there too much water has gone under the bridge, I don't trust him, and I can't get my trust back. A few days ago, his old buddy left a message for him, and I fear he is getting back into the drugs again. I can't live like that and don't want to. So that is why I thought it might be fraud. It has nothing to do with the size of anything, bank account or anything else. Thank you all for your help, and your speculation. Yes, I shouldn't have married him, knowing what I know now. But at least I am trying to rectify that. I have an appointment with an attorney in two weeks, but was hoping I could find out if this constituted fraud now, instead of waiting two more weeks. Have a good evening, everyone. W I L
