Court on Tuesday for Order to Show Cause

What is the name of your state? Idaho
I am going to appoligize ahead of time for the length of this thread but I feel that I need to explain lots of details to get a good response.
OK, My ex husband and I were married in May of 2000, on our way home from Vegas he rolled my car off a cliff at 75 MPH and I was ejected from the car. So you might guess that I have not the ability to work anymore. I received a cash settlement from the car ins co, and I might add it wasnt enough to even touch the damage done. Well Of that money I wrote his business a $5000 check, which I wrote *loan* on the memo portion, because I wanted to protect US when we took the money back out of the business, as not to have to pay taxes on it. I worte a $2000 check to him. I wrote about another $1500 worth of checks to places for his business. I even paid a couple of his house payments (We kept seperate funds) I was not allowed any portion of the equity of the house. Well, during this marriage my 2 vehicles I owned outright prior to the marriage as well as things like my TV (Which was given to his mom and she said to me that even if he and I broke up that she was going to keep the TV, I gave no thought to that because I didnt see us breaking up, he even verbally said that if that did happen he would give me his TV, which never happened) and other household goods were given to his family members, he had bought me a new car after the accident which he had repoed soon after he left. The night he left he was in a horribly scary rage, he kept screaming *What have you ever done for me?*he punched me in the back and kidknapped our 18 month old son. He did this on the evening that I came home from the DR with the news I had to have a spinal fusion. Well, I had taken a job with a major company because of the ins because I knew I had to have surgery, I just hadnt had a DR confirm it. So thru this I had filed for a protection order, went and picked our son up at my Ex's cousins house (It had been 11 days and he told me I wasnt ever going to see my son again) Well, in the divorce he agreed to repay the $5000 loan, actually $3700 if he paid it within 45 days, well he has not done that, and he told me if I tried to collect it that he would file bancruptcy. Well I think he meant that he would file bancruptcy for his incorparation, which I looked up and just so happens that it was dissolved in the spring of 2002, while we were still married. Well during the divorce he really got most of our assets because he claimed that they were the business's. SO had I known this info a year ago when we were getting divorced I am sure that the settlement would have been totallly different. So to sum it up, in dealing with the protection orders and him and his crap I lost my job, he had my car repoed the day I was supposed to go in for surgery, he left with my bills behind, I had no car, no way of taking care of myself or kids, and worse yet I had to have surgery. Well, I have filed order to show cause papers to have him held in contempt for not repaying the $5000, for not paying 3 seperate medical bills and for picking out son up at daycare when I was supposed to, which was 30 miles away from my home, when I had to also be picking up my other 3 children from a prior marriage. I am going to say here also he and my 1st ex are now buddies and get together in front of all 4 of my children and bad mouth me. In fact when I first gave him a statement for the money owed, basically demanding it within 15 days he went straight over to my ex's house and laughed at me in front of my kids about what a dumb B***h I was to think I would ever see the money. So back in Dec I called him and asked him again if we could make arrangements on the payment, he told me that he wasnt going to pay me and threatened to file contempt charges on me, for what I have no idea because I have fulfilled every part of the divorce decree. So in all of this I do not have an atty. and court is on Tuesday (tomorrow) and I am scared to death because I know he has an atty. I am not really sure how to present myself. Should I bring up the position that he left me in prior to the divorce, how so many of my assets were given to his family, how he stole out of our storage unit items that were mine prior to our marriage?How he moved all of my things from one storage unit to one less then half the size, and broke much of my stuff, that of which he didnt steal. I guess I am not wanting to come across to the judge like poor me, look what he did to me, he ruined my life, its all his fault. Which in reality thats fairly close to the truth. Any thoughts? Whot to do, what NOT to do? Any help would greatly be appreciated.