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[f1x0r4t3d]

What is the name of your state? tx

I have gotten the subpoena regarding the final "D"....In these forms it has some things that are not true and also states that I LOSE ALL CUSTODY OF WHAT I HOLD DEAR IN THIS WORLD! (MY daughter) My ex has told me that she will not keep her from me but I believe differently. She has kept me from talking to her in the past.

I want this to finally end so that I can move on and get past this but I do not want to hastily do something that I will regret later either. I do have reasons for not wanting to go to court and fight this. I in essence have two options.

1. Sign the waiver and "opt out" to not be served the papers. This option will grant her (my ex) all that she wants in the divorce (THE ONLY THING I AM CONCERNED ABOUT IS MY DAUGHTER THOUGH) and put in writing things that she lied about to "Her legal team" ABOUT THE REASON FOR SEPARATION. Legal documents are forever.

2. I can choose to fight this battle. (I dont know if I can win) I will have to face the music and go back to my hometown and possibly go away for a long time. This may also inhibit me from actually attending the case hearing itself thus defaulting me to lose my case.

The truth is that I ran away from my problems in order to "heal" myself. I was on probation but skipped town to get away from the things that kept me drunk/drugged. I came to *current location*** to change myself for the good. I have been doing very well. I am sober and mentally/physically healthier. I feel that it may be possible to convince the judge, regarding my own history, to grant me another chance at my freedom. However if he does not then I have pretty much fed myself to the wolves.

My question is....
When I do go back and turn myself in would I still be able to fight the case so as to have the judge grant me custody rights or would all that be thrown out the window once I get arrested.

OR....
Could I still go to trial without actually appearing..(hiring a lawyer) and having him represent me.

[Ohiogal]

YOu need to grow up and be an adult. If that means gong to jail for violating parole do so. If not, then what are you saying to your child? Good grief. If you want your daughter in your life then you fight for her. But mom has a very good cause to get full custody depending on your crime if you are running from the law.

[f1x0r4t3d]

I thought I could run from my problems...I am not denying that. I do wish to go back. However I dont want to lose custody simply because of my mistake. I DO regret running and wish/hope there is a way to fight this case. However, as it appears I do not have a leg to stand on then I dont know if I would even be heard in a court room.

My crime was being caught with a half pound of marijuana in my trunk. this was back in 05...I have since stayed clean (up until we separated back in Jan of this year). I do still send her money to help out with my daughter as well. I have a great career wich enables me to help....(especially since she is also going through a rough patch). I feel that I have left them both high and dry and did not want to go to jail until they were stable financially. I dont want to see my ex in the street much less my daughter.

[Jcolon515]

Here's my advice and Im not a lawyer..so take it as you will..

You need to go and face the charges, deal with that half first. Regardless of whether you sign away or deal with it, Your charges pending are going to take over first before anything else. Once you've dealt with that and face your punishment, then you can deal with the issue of getting your daughter back. You can't keep running from your problems, eventually your going to get caught.