Magnoliatree
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
Hello all.
I am currently going through a divorce or attempting to, nothing has been filed yet, my ex is living in New Jersey, I reside in Florida where we were married. We have a 4 year old son. My Ex has been out of my home since early August and we had made plans for custody (nothing has been filed in the Courts yet) that our son would go to Jersey for 3 weeks in December for the Holidays. I was a little concerned by this b/c my ex lives with his alcoholic father (these are not allegations, this is fact) however I was assured that my son's father would be taking care of him the whole time and I didn't want to stand in the way of my son and his father seeing each other. I was also assured that my ex's father was not drinking and had cleaned up his act.
Well, this was all set to go until Saturday when evidently my ex, his father's girlfriend and the father got completely wasted and started fighting with each other. I get a voice message on my phone from the girlfriend thanking me for shipping my P.O.S ex up there to live with them and if I wanted any dirt on him I should call her. Not 10 mins later I get a call from the father, whcih I answered b/c I didn't recognize the number, he proceeded to scream at me at the top of his lungs and call me every single name in the book times two! I hung up b/c I'm not listening to that! After that I called my ex and asked him what was going on, he was obviously loaded too and just laughed. So the next morning I called him and told him I did not feel it was a safe environment for my son to be in and therefore he could make other arrangements to see him, but the baby was not staying in that house.
Now my ex has stopped paying the agreed upon child support and is pretty much harassing me, wherein he called me 7 times in a row at 3:00am to yell at me.
I should mention I asked for the divorce and asked him to leave. He has told me he isn't signing any divorce documents now and is going to make my life a living hell. Fabulous, well what about the kid? What are we going to do about that!? But this is why we are getting a divorce.
So my question is this, if he isn't going to sign a divorce, then what? How can I get child support from him? And most importantly how the heck can I move on if he won't comply? Also, can I get in trouble or be shed in a bad light with the judge if I prohibit my son from going to my ex's father's house?
Any advice?
Thanks in advance!
Hello all.
I am currently going through a divorce or attempting to, nothing has been filed yet, my ex is living in New Jersey, I reside in Florida where we were married. We have a 4 year old son. My Ex has been out of my home since early August and we had made plans for custody (nothing has been filed in the Courts yet) that our son would go to Jersey for 3 weeks in December for the Holidays. I was a little concerned by this b/c my ex lives with his alcoholic father (these are not allegations, this is fact) however I was assured that my son's father would be taking care of him the whole time and I didn't want to stand in the way of my son and his father seeing each other. I was also assured that my ex's father was not drinking and had cleaned up his act.
Well, this was all set to go until Saturday when evidently my ex, his father's girlfriend and the father got completely wasted and started fighting with each other. I get a voice message on my phone from the girlfriend thanking me for shipping my P.O.S ex up there to live with them and if I wanted any dirt on him I should call her. Not 10 mins later I get a call from the father, whcih I answered b/c I didn't recognize the number, he proceeded to scream at me at the top of his lungs and call me every single name in the book times two! I hung up b/c I'm not listening to that! After that I called my ex and asked him what was going on, he was obviously loaded too and just laughed. So the next morning I called him and told him I did not feel it was a safe environment for my son to be in and therefore he could make other arrangements to see him, but the baby was not staying in that house.
Now my ex has stopped paying the agreed upon child support and is pretty much harassing me, wherein he called me 7 times in a row at 3:00am to yell at me.
I should mention I asked for the divorce and asked him to leave. He has told me he isn't signing any divorce documents now and is going to make my life a living hell. Fabulous, well what about the kid? What are we going to do about that!? But this is why we are getting a divorce.
So my question is this, if he isn't going to sign a divorce, then what? How can I get child support from him? And most importantly how the heck can I move on if he won't comply? Also, can I get in trouble or be shed in a bad light with the judge if I prohibit my son from going to my ex's father's house?
Any advice?
Thanks in advance!