Pension settlement purposedly omitted
There is not a doubt in my mind that my ex purposedly ommited the pension he knew about during our divorce settlement. I really didnt think about it at the time because I wasnt after the 401 k or pensions but HIS lawyer was. My lawyer stressed that I should go after his because his was worth more than mine. The judge ordered our pension and 401 k will be divided in the settlement. I talked to my ex after this, and "thought" we had an agreement to leave each others alone only to receive a letter from his lawyer that he did in deed intend to come after mine despite our conversation. This not only left me perplexed with what was happening, but reminded me that he gained a pension from an employer during the first ten years of our marriage (we were married for 25 years), that he obviously thought I would forget about. I am not beyond taking care of myself, and would have been more than willing to let him have what he feels is his, but I will not lay down and let this man walk all over me once again. I will give him half of what he thinks he deserves, but I will also take half of what I deserve when I accepted the role of being a mother and care taker for our children. I truly have had enough of this guy thinking he is God, and can continue to have control over me. I have no problem of giving him half of what was mine so long as I get what is half of his due to me. Divorce is truly ugly, but I am quickly finding out just how ugly my marriage was to him. Honestly, the emotional and ultimate physical abuse this man has put me thru cannot compare to the ends justifying the means. I honestly tried not to be "dirty" in this divorce case, but I am quickly finding out that I must fight back even if I must stoop to his level. thank you for all your help/ I know I am not the only one in this position. Anyone that can offer guidance via experience..I am more than grateful for your reply. I have an appointment with a lawyer to help me bring an end to this god-forsaken madness, but in the meantime I will also be preparing to make my ex own up to his deceitfulness and any guidance you have for me will truly be appreciated. Thank you in advance for your time and help. Hopefully when this is all over I will be able to give back to those of you who walk in the shoes I have been forced to walk in at this time.