What is the name of your state? Minnesota
I separated from my soon to be ex in 2003 in Georgia. During which time we tried to do the divorce uncontested. He is alcholic and crack addict and hide it well for many years. In fact the Sheriff actually dragged him in one time to try to talk to him about his addiction. In the summer of 2004 after he failed to make several appointments with our family lawyer I was forced to seek other council because he was our family attorney and didn't want the *conflict of interest* to come up. I obtained council and filed for divorce. I was granted full custody of the children and he was granted supervised visitiation right and must submit to drug testing prior to each visitation with the children. After many months we would submit drafts he would agree, then he would fail to show up at his attorneys to sign the papers to finalize them. When he did show up he would want to change something and well I am no closer to a divorce than when I started this in 2003. We have made several attempts to get in front of the judge to make it final however a delay would always happen. During the 2 year course I finally met another man and I moved to Minnesota to continue on with my life. After the move I agreed to even sign over the quick deed to the house but he would always wait a month or so and then change something else. My lawyer and his is very frustrated at this time with the slow movement of the divorce and his attorney at this time rarely if ever responds to him. I assume it is because he has no money to pay her due to his drug use. My lawyer consulted with me this week and he wants me to drop the case in Georgia and refile here in Minnesota as he states we are spinning our wheels and he realizes that my soon to be ex won't financially be able to fight me in another state. Since I have resided here almost 6 months I realize that this might be an option to pursue. However soon to be ex did say he would finally sign the papers if I took out the *Must submit to drug tests* out of the divorce papers and agreed to allow him to have children all summer long except for 2 weeks. Anything less he will not sign he says.
I guess the question is would it be easier for me to simply drop the case and refile up here in Minnesota. Or would it be better to get him to sign the papers according to his wishes and then not allow the kids to go to summer visitation and just take my chances of him taking me back to court for contempt. My lawyer says that it won't be so easy for him to take me back to court if I show an extensive history of drug use and my daughter who is now 11 says she will not go unless he submits to drug testing as she knows the last time she visited he passed out twice. I guess the question is what is the better of the 2 evils?
I separated from my soon to be ex in 2003 in Georgia. During which time we tried to do the divorce uncontested. He is alcholic and crack addict and hide it well for many years. In fact the Sheriff actually dragged him in one time to try to talk to him about his addiction. In the summer of 2004 after he failed to make several appointments with our family lawyer I was forced to seek other council because he was our family attorney and didn't want the *conflict of interest* to come up. I obtained council and filed for divorce. I was granted full custody of the children and he was granted supervised visitiation right and must submit to drug testing prior to each visitation with the children. After many months we would submit drafts he would agree, then he would fail to show up at his attorneys to sign the papers to finalize them. When he did show up he would want to change something and well I am no closer to a divorce than when I started this in 2003. We have made several attempts to get in front of the judge to make it final however a delay would always happen. During the 2 year course I finally met another man and I moved to Minnesota to continue on with my life. After the move I agreed to even sign over the quick deed to the house but he would always wait a month or so and then change something else. My lawyer and his is very frustrated at this time with the slow movement of the divorce and his attorney at this time rarely if ever responds to him. I assume it is because he has no money to pay her due to his drug use. My lawyer consulted with me this week and he wants me to drop the case in Georgia and refile here in Minnesota as he states we are spinning our wheels and he realizes that my soon to be ex won't financially be able to fight me in another state. Since I have resided here almost 6 months I realize that this might be an option to pursue. However soon to be ex did say he would finally sign the papers if I took out the *Must submit to drug tests* out of the divorce papers and agreed to allow him to have children all summer long except for 2 weeks. Anything less he will not sign he says.
I guess the question is would it be easier for me to simply drop the case and refile up here in Minnesota. Or would it be better to get him to sign the papers according to his wishes and then not allow the kids to go to summer visitation and just take my chances of him taking me back to court for contempt. My lawyer says that it won't be so easy for him to take me back to court if I show an extensive history of drug use and my daughter who is now 11 says she will not go unless he submits to drug testing as she knows the last time she visited he passed out twice. I guess the question is what is the better of the 2 evils?
