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outofideas
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I need advise. My husband and I have been married for 16 years...for the most part wonderful and exciting years. The last year has been a heck of a ride though. We have been engaged in some risky business with some friends of ours on a few occasions....something he wanted to try. This has been going on about 1 year...maybe 4 times. Since the start of this he told me there is this girl at his work who he is interested in. He told me I am not the same person he knew...the same old lines. Anyway, i was jealous of couse, did a little investigating of my own and found it to be nothing. I dropped it. Then one night....playing our games, things got out of hand when he, our friend, kissed me when my husband wasn't there....needless to say my husband saw the whole thing....was very upset.....said it was cheating....which it is, but, I didn't see it that way. I thought what was a kiss when he had "watched" alot more??? Anyway...things got nasty and he called the police...bla bla bla ...I left. A week went by and he said to come home. Since I have been home he is really making things difficult. Playing mind games with me. One minute happy about I am here...the next telling me how he cant' stand to look at me and I better find a place of my own. Every disagreement we have had since, he blames on me...he expects me to back down because I am the one that "cheated" and should be lucky he is willing to take me back. He says things all the time in front of my kids about the situation and doesn't understand when I get mad that he does that....I have talked to my kids and they have told me exactly how I messed things up....and I took it. I didn't tell them any of the other details of couse. I could go on forever...about the situation.....ends up I find out he has seeked a lawyers advice....not telling them the "whole" truth...just that he caught me with another man. The lawyer told him he would get the kids, based on my behavior......what about his? Please help...if nothing else some advise or critism is fine............ :confused