to divorce or not (common-law)

[abcdef512]

What is the name of your state? CO, KS & TN !!

for starters, thanks for all the previous help. i only switched usernames because i didn't feel i would get as fair of a response if I used my original username, etc.

with that being said, in addition to asking my question on here, i have also researched online and am currently speaking with a number of attornies via email for additional input.

Most of you are aware of my entire screwed up situation so here's my newest addition....

during my TN litigation, my affidavits state I'm married and how long, etc....
it's a common law marriage (went from CO to KS). I honestly ONLY want two things:
1) a divorce
2) to disestablish paternity for my husband

After speaking with my husband during this last week, he has decided that we were never married. So, I kinda DO have the option to just drop it. My biggest concern (other than the two mentioned above) is that once the child's biological father starts litigation again, if I don't get a divorce then all of my prior TN affidavits could been seen as purgurous and I feel that this could all be very detrimental to myself.

One attorney found a loophole for me that could even allow me to just file for an annulment in KS but I still have the same concerns there; looking purgurous in the end due to TN litigations. All of the attornies I've spoken with via email say we DO need to divorce, but in the end they also say that we COULD simply just go on with our lives and forget about it all.

So, do I go for a full-blown contested divorce (we'll have to get a judge to even agree that a marriage exists first, but that should be quite simple due to all the documentation I have) , or do I just drop it (cheapest way) and worry about explaining things in court at a later date and end up makin things harder on me in the long run (especially financially)

Then there's the option of an annulment ($700+ and I still have the same consequences I would if I just 'forgot' about being married).

[seniorjudge]

A divorce is easier and cheaper and will settle the problem of whether you were married.

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by abcdef512

i only switched usernames because i didn't feel i would get as fair of a response if I used my original username, etc.

Be sure to do that for your court paperwork, too.

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by Silverplum

Be sure to do that for your court paperwork, too.

yeah, and let's be at least half way honest as well OP, joshua/justa/tired/abcdefg Aw!!!! and you THOUGHT no one was watching???

YOU have switched user names on 4 occasions that I can count. I am quite sure I may have missed some others.

I for one, have no intention of helping you, no matter what name you use.

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by fairisfair

yeah, and let's be at least half way honest as well OP, joshua/justa/tired/abcdefg Aw!!!! and you THOUGHT no one was watching???

YOU have switched user names on 4 occasions that I can count. I am quite sure I may have missed some others.

I for one, have no intention of helping you, no matter what name you use.

SHAZAM!!!!

You nailed it, Fair. I couldn't remember (not enough coffee?), but you did.

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Since you two filed a joint tax return as MARRIED, your options are divorce or annulment. I can even figure out what grounds you might have on that one. So, your down to DIVORCE.

If you filed a tax return jointly with a Kansas state return, you are/were a Kansas resident. You were no longer a Colorado resident.

[Silverplum]

She's "spoiled25" on another site, with the exact post as the first in this thread.

Getting the same info/responses there, too.