What is the name of your state? Ohio.
Hi. I am writing this to get information for a very close college friend of mine who lives in Cleveland, OH, and was recently divorced (final in April 02) from her husband of 2.5 years.
The primary reason for their divorce was that he was verbally and emotionally abusive towards her, and just before he moved out in Oct 01, things had started to get physical (he would push her and such - but nothing that ever left bruises). They had also been going to marriage counseling (I am not sure how long they went for, but I know it was for at least 6 months prior to him moving out). She also caught him downloading internet porn and cheating on her with other women online.
Since their divorce, my friend's ex has spurts where he will constantly call her (home and cell phone) and email her, and then she'll have a couple of weeks where she won't hear from him at all, then it starts all over again. There was one instance when he showed up at her door in the rain. He keeps telling her that he thinks he made a mistake, that he's changed, that he wants her back, etc. Thankfully, she knows that she is better off without him than with him, and does NOT want to be back in that relationship. She has repeatedly asked him to stop calling her, emailing her, etc, because he hurts her (emotionally) everytime he contacts her.
She does not want the hassle of changing her phone numbers or email address, as she uses them for her job. Is a restraining order an option for her to get him to stop contacting her? Myself and some other friends of her feel that a restraining order, or some other legal option that would have serious consequences (ie jail time) if it is broken, is probably the only way to get him to leave her alone.
We told her to call her divorce lawyer to see what he thinks, but I promised her I would do some research to see if I could find out if there is even an avenue for her to explore to get him to leave her alone.
Any information or advice that I could pass on to her would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.