ballistic wife
here's some advice that will be a lot cheaper than a divorce with alimony and child support for 3 children: it sounds like your wife is totally overwhelmed and stressed out to the max! i imagine she has her hands full with her own 3, and shouldn't be taking care of more. have her stop the daycare immediately and search your soul to see if you are contributing to the stress yourself. do you help her with housework by picking up after yourself, etc? some women just can't take a lot of stress, and try to be all things to everyone, and relieve the stress by blowing. it might take some help on your part to stop doing the things that make her crazy- and i'll bet you know what they are, and they are probably the "small things" that she's blowing up over. it might be painful at first to do without the income, but not as painful as not being there to see your kids grow up! if you were interested enough to go to counselling, i suspect you really want to save your marriage. taking care of her own 3- with your help- ought to be plenty for her handle all by itself. good luck.