Domestic Abuse

[mmarino68]

New York State.

I am a victim of domestic (verbal, mental, emotional and physical) abuse by my wife.
I am ready to leave but need to know if I am responsible to pay the mortgage on the house. We have lived there 2 years and have been married for 3, the house (TITLE, DEED, MORTGAGE etc...) is in her name and her mothers as they are the ones who purchased the home. My name is not and has never been on ANY associated paperwork. But I pay the mortgage from my salary, it is transferred every month from my account to hers and she writes the checks from her account. I cannot leave and survive if I am expected to continue to pay a $1900 a month mortgage.

Thanks.....

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by mmarino68

New York State.

I am a victim of domestic (verbal, mental, emotional and physical) abuse by my wife.
I am ready to leave but need to know if I am responsible to pay the mortgage on the house. We have lived there 2 years and have been married for 3, the house (TITLE, DEED, MORTGAGE etc...) is in her name and her mothers as they are the ones who purchased the home. My name is not and has never been on ANY associated paperwork. But I pay the mortgage from my salary, it is transferred every month from my account to hers and she writes the checks from her account. I cannot leave and survive if I am expected to continue to pay a $1900 a month mortgage.

Thanks.....

If you are not on the mortgage and there is no CO, you are not responsible to pay it. The owners can pay their own mortgage payments..

Are there children? How long were you married? Does she also work?

Also, next time she is physically abusive, file a police report.

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by nextwife

If you are not on the mortgage and there is no CO, you are not responsible to pay it. The owners can pay their own mortgage payments..

Are there children? How long were you married? Does she also work?

Also, next time she is physically abusive, file a police report.

And OP if you do have a child with her do NOT leave the child with mom.

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by Ohiogal

And OP if you do have a child with her do NOT leave the child with mom.

Amen to that!

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Ohiogal

And OP if you do have a child with her do NOT leave the child with mom.

Which means that you may need to refuse to move out until/unless a judge orders you to do so.

[mom6399]

You can contact your local domestic abuse shelter, as well. They may be able to help you file a restraining order if your abuse is documented and may be able to help you find an affordable or possibly free attorney.

Good luck to all of you.

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by mom6399

You can contact your local domestic abuse shelter, as well. They may be able to help you file a restraining order if your abuse is documented and may be able to help you find an affordable or possibly free attorney.

Good luck to all of you.

And the sad thing is they probably won't be able to provide him with shelter.