What is the name of your state? North Carolina
My husband and I have been separated for over a year and have remained on mostly amicable terms. I am currently living in the marital residence; both of our names are on the deed and the mortgage loan, and we have been splitting the mortgage payment. To date, he has retained a key to the house. We share custody of our preschooler and he works very near the house, so it has sometimes been convenient for him to have access to the house to be able to pick-up/drop-off some of her items when I am not home. HOWEVER, a few weeks ago, he called to see if I was going to be home, which I told him I was not, as he was coming by to pick up his gas grill from the garage and some books from the house. I said fine to the grill, but preferably not books until I was there to make sure he didn't take any of mine by mistake. I also asked if he was alone, to which he said no. At that point, I specifically told him not to take anyone into my home, and further, for him to just not go in either. The next day, when I came home, my television and several other items of marital property were missing. He admitted later that his father had been with him to help him remove the items.
He says he was within perfect legal bounds, and further, that I cannot legally change the locks and deny him access, because it is still HIS house (although he chose to move out last year).
Any advice, insight, etc.?