What is the name of your state (Arizona)?
Hi everyone,
I'm sure to some, this post may seem cold or insensitive but if all of the facts were known, most, if not everyone would think I am a saint.
Ok, here is the question. I married a woman in 2000 and after a relatively short time, the marriage became very destructive. I will not bore everyone with the details but let's just say that my ex-wife had many issues that stemmed from one of the worst childhoods I could have ever imagined.
One other thing I should mention is that during this time, a disease that she has flared out of control. She has LUPUS and it worsened into a seizure disorder. She became very irrational and over the course of yet another couple of years after we were divorced it worsened into various types of cancer and MRSA. She would not do what was necessary to fix this, IE eating habits, alcohol consumption, marijuana, stress, and it is even worse now.
In this relationship that I just had to get out of, I basically gave her everything she asked for just to get out. I gave her half of my house value that she only lived in for 3 years, I owned for 7 prior to that. I bought her out and then when I went to sell, the market was much worse and I received almost half of what she received. I paid her 2K a month for 2 years even though we were only married for 3 years and it was not listed in the divorce doc as alimony so she did not claim taxes on it. I gave her our paid for vehicle worth 25K and I took my leased vehicle worth nothing. I paid for her health insurance for 3 years, I paid off all of our debt, and finally agreed to give her half of my 401K acct at the time of the divorce, listed in the doc as about 25K.
I am taking too much time to tell this, sorry folks... Here is the question. She became much sicker and I continued to pay her the 2K a month for 9 months past the 2 years and then took another job that paid considerably less. I told her I could not pay her anymore and she told me that I had to pay her the 25K from the 401K account I owed her. I should also mention that my 401K account lost about 75% of it's value over the last couple of years because of the market, probably not relavent, just griping. She has gone to an attorney that is now telling me to pay up.
Now, I realize I am very frustrated at the moment, but it seems that the amount I paid her above and beyond the 2 years should go towards that amount from my 401K account.
Would a court deem that the amount I gave her over the last 9 months be counted towards this 401K amount I owe as per the divorce document, or am I liable to give her even more.
Also, am I stuck at 25K even though she should have to pay taxes on this. Again, attorney is claiming the wording in the divorce doc just says 25K.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
Hi everyone,
I'm sure to some, this post may seem cold or insensitive but if all of the facts were known, most, if not everyone would think I am a saint.
Ok, here is the question. I married a woman in 2000 and after a relatively short time, the marriage became very destructive. I will not bore everyone with the details but let's just say that my ex-wife had many issues that stemmed from one of the worst childhoods I could have ever imagined.
One other thing I should mention is that during this time, a disease that she has flared out of control. She has LUPUS and it worsened into a seizure disorder. She became very irrational and over the course of yet another couple of years after we were divorced it worsened into various types of cancer and MRSA. She would not do what was necessary to fix this, IE eating habits, alcohol consumption, marijuana, stress, and it is even worse now.
In this relationship that I just had to get out of, I basically gave her everything she asked for just to get out. I gave her half of my house value that she only lived in for 3 years, I owned for 7 prior to that. I bought her out and then when I went to sell, the market was much worse and I received almost half of what she received. I paid her 2K a month for 2 years even though we were only married for 3 years and it was not listed in the divorce doc as alimony so she did not claim taxes on it. I gave her our paid for vehicle worth 25K and I took my leased vehicle worth nothing. I paid for her health insurance for 3 years, I paid off all of our debt, and finally agreed to give her half of my 401K acct at the time of the divorce, listed in the doc as about 25K.
I am taking too much time to tell this, sorry folks... Here is the question. She became much sicker and I continued to pay her the 2K a month for 9 months past the 2 years and then took another job that paid considerably less. I told her I could not pay her anymore and she told me that I had to pay her the 25K from the 401K account I owed her. I should also mention that my 401K account lost about 75% of it's value over the last couple of years because of the market, probably not relavent, just griping. She has gone to an attorney that is now telling me to pay up.
Now, I realize I am very frustrated at the moment, but it seems that the amount I paid her above and beyond the 2 years should go towards that amount from my 401K account.
Would a court deem that the amount I gave her over the last 9 months be counted towards this 401K amount I owe as per the divorce document, or am I liable to give her even more.
Also, am I stuck at 25K even though she should have to pay taxes on this. Again, attorney is claiming the wording in the divorce doc just says 25K.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
