Is it enough proof?

[COS]

What is the name of your state? Colorado
I divorced my husband a year ago, although he beat me up and was charged with domestic violence, the courts ordered me to pay alimony. I have been paying him through electronic fund transfers from my account into his - which I can drop money into, but cannot withdraw. Are my bank statements proof enough that I have paid? He is now threatening to sell the debt to a collection agency.

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state? Colorado
I divorced my husband a year ago, although he beat me up and was charged with domestic violence, the courts ordered me to pay alimony. I have been paying him through electronic fund transfers from my account into his - which I can drop money into, but cannot withdraw. Are my bank statements proof enough that I have paid? He is now threatening to sell the debt to a collection agency.

I would think your bank statements are proof enough. UNLESS you were court ordered to pay in some other manner?

 

[seagoing]

As long as you are fulfilling the divorce decree ,and with your reciepts I wouldn't worry.Makes you wonder what his game is.Perhaps he's thinking he can sell the settlement for a lump sum??Its common in Ins.settlements but I don't know about alimony payments.

 

[WalterLegal]

Proof Positive?

Based on some assumptions, you should have "enough proof" that you made the payments. Some assumptions are:

1. That the account you deposited the $$ in only transfers to his account;
2. That he has primary control of the receiving account.
3. That you have receipts that the $$ was actually transferred.

It should be noted that while a previous poster referred to whether the $$ was otherwise permissible by a court order, I must respectfully note that this would not be relevant on the issue of proof of payment. It would be relevant to a possible contempt of court if it rose to that level though.

I don't understand why your X would threaten to turn the matter over to a collection agency. The appropriate means to resolve an alleged nonpayment is to file an appropriate motion with the court (contempt motion). I have some reservations about whether collection agency involvement in domestic matters would be seen by the court as an affront to public policy. Hang in there! (www.walterlegal.com - Colorado)

 

[COS]

Thank you, all. He openly stated he was going to do this because he could get twice the money. He thinks that the transfers are not proof of payment so I won't have a chance of defending myself. He is looking for an upfront lump so that is why he is threatening the agency.

I didn't think he had a shot, but you start to question your self-worth and judgement when dealing with a manipulator like this.

 

[WalterLegal]

Colorado

Keeping your self-esteem is probably the most important thing you can do. Don't let the bad externalities rule the only life you have - Nothing is worth that.