hdfatboy08
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Utah
I am wondering what can be done to stop harassment from my soon to be ex-wife? She has been very emotionally, verbally, and previously physically abusive (prior to us separating). We have now been separated for over a year and the divorce was filed about one year ago but was delayed because I was laid off in May and have just barely found employment again. Anyway, here is the type of harassment I get from her:
- Text messages, most of the time unprovoked and random where she'll call me a piece of ****, tell me she wishes I were dead, tells me I am a deadbeat dad, and that my kids will hate me when they're older, that I am a loser, my family is full of losers, etc etc.
- Calls of threatening nature, threatening to not let me see the kids again if I have a disagreement with her (she has been and is very controlling). She threatens to try and ruin my life by telling the courts I am a pervert, that I am an alcoholic, and that I am unfit to be a parent (all of which are 100% untrue). Also, if she tries to call me and I don't answer she will call over and over and over again and then will start text messaging me threatening me if I don't answer the phone.
I have been dealing with this during our marriage and finally had the courage to leave her because of it but she continues to use my children as leverage to try and have control over me still and to try and destroy my personal life and bring me down. To make matters worst, she is a paralegal by profession and so she uses and manipulates the law to try and control me as well. HELP! I can explain more in private messaging but I don't have money for an attorney right now but I just want her to leave me alone. I just want to raise my children during my parent time and have nothing else to do with her.
Is there anything I can file with the courts to demand she stop talking to me? Is there an intermediary we can use for communication? I try not to let the harassment get to me and I definitely do not show her it bothers me but it does. It gives me panic attacks, stress and puts me in a bad mood. Please someone tell me what I can do to stop this? Thank you!
I am wondering what can be done to stop harassment from my soon to be ex-wife? She has been very emotionally, verbally, and previously physically abusive (prior to us separating). We have now been separated for over a year and the divorce was filed about one year ago but was delayed because I was laid off in May and have just barely found employment again. Anyway, here is the type of harassment I get from her:
- Text messages, most of the time unprovoked and random where she'll call me a piece of ****, tell me she wishes I were dead, tells me I am a deadbeat dad, and that my kids will hate me when they're older, that I am a loser, my family is full of losers, etc etc.
- Calls of threatening nature, threatening to not let me see the kids again if I have a disagreement with her (she has been and is very controlling). She threatens to try and ruin my life by telling the courts I am a pervert, that I am an alcoholic, and that I am unfit to be a parent (all of which are 100% untrue). Also, if she tries to call me and I don't answer she will call over and over and over again and then will start text messaging me threatening me if I don't answer the phone.
I have been dealing with this during our marriage and finally had the courage to leave her because of it but she continues to use my children as leverage to try and have control over me still and to try and destroy my personal life and bring me down. To make matters worst, she is a paralegal by profession and so she uses and manipulates the law to try and control me as well. HELP! I can explain more in private messaging but I don't have money for an attorney right now but I just want her to leave me alone. I just want to raise my children during my parent time and have nothing else to do with her.
Is there anything I can file with the courts to demand she stop talking to me? Is there an intermediary we can use for communication? I try not to let the harassment get to me and I definitely do not show her it bothers me but it does. It gives me panic attacks, stress and puts me in a bad mood. Please someone tell me what I can do to stop this? Thank you!