What is the name of your state? WI
So we have temp orders and are working w/ our respective attny's on wording of the final doc but have not reached final agreement yet. The temp orders give placement as 50/50 and STBX has moved into an apartment.
In the initial consult w/ my attny he made it very clear that if i wanted to date that was fine but under no circumstances should i expose my kids to any of that. (made perfect sense to me and was how i planned to handle it anyway)
so i have recently discovered that the guy my ex is dating (and is secretly engaged to...irrelevant i suspect) is spending time at her house whilst the kids are there and is interacting with them. He also lives quite a ways away so i suspect he may be spending the night there also...
Was my attny's initial advice based on some legal issue that i should be aware of or just from a "good of the kids" standpoint......obviously once the divorce is final this is a moot point but until that time.....
I'm taking the position that this is one of those things that i can 100% disagree with but on her days she can do what ever she wants...regardless of the consequences....all i have done is indicate that i will no longer use her for child coverage (we don't have first refusal in the Temp Order) as i can't trust the environment i would be sending them to.
I should also say that while she makes many many poor choices putting our kids in harms way would never be one of them....not concerned from that standpoint....more the long term effects of the kids being exposed to a relationship that screams rebound...
anyways interested to hear if i'm missing anything legally
Thanks
So we have temp orders and are working w/ our respective attny's on wording of the final doc but have not reached final agreement yet. The temp orders give placement as 50/50 and STBX has moved into an apartment.
In the initial consult w/ my attny he made it very clear that if i wanted to date that was fine but under no circumstances should i expose my kids to any of that. (made perfect sense to me and was how i planned to handle it anyway)
so i have recently discovered that the guy my ex is dating (and is secretly engaged to...irrelevant i suspect) is spending time at her house whilst the kids are there and is interacting with them. He also lives quite a ways away so i suspect he may be spending the night there also...
Was my attny's initial advice based on some legal issue that i should be aware of or just from a "good of the kids" standpoint......obviously once the divorce is final this is a moot point but until that time.....
I'm taking the position that this is one of those things that i can 100% disagree with but on her days she can do what ever she wants...regardless of the consequences....all i have done is indicate that i will no longer use her for child coverage (we don't have first refusal in the Temp Order) as i can't trust the environment i would be sending them to.
I should also say that while she makes many many poor choices putting our kids in harms way would never be one of them....not concerned from that standpoint....more the long term effects of the kids being exposed to a relationship that screams rebound...
anyways interested to hear if i'm missing anything legally
Thanks