extramarital affair leading to child

[almost out]

What is the name of your state? Colorado.
We got married in Alaska but now live in Colorado. My husband just told me that he cheated about 2/3 years ago and there might be a child out there that is his. He hasn't taken a paternity test yet, but there is a 50/50 chance. He used protection, but he doesn't know. How will this impact what I'm entitled to (alimney, child support, etc)? He has been the main provider and for the last 3 years the sole provider and I'm accustomed to a comfortable life.

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Originally Posted by almost out

What is the name of your state? Colorado.
We got married in Alaska but now live in Colorado. My husband just told me that he cheated about 2/3 years ago and there might be a child out there that is his. He hasn't taken a paternity test yet, but there is a 50/50 chance. He used protection, but he doesn't know. How will this impact what I'm entitled to (alimney, child support, etc)? He has been the main provider and for the last 3 years the sole provider and I'm accustomed to a comfortable life.

If he is the father, he will have to pay cs which will affect the amount of money he'll bring to the household. If you are divorcing him or not, you need to go out and get your own income. This isn't about you and how comfortable lifestyle you can get out of this man, this is about a possible child that is going without and all you worry about is your luxurious needs??!! Maybe the sunny days are over**************.

[stealth2]

I'd say it's time to get a job. Very few states base alimony or property settlements on adultery. As for child support - the first to file usually gets a slice of a larger pie.

[almost out]

By no means am i living a luxurious lifestyle. I quit a very good job so that I could follow him in his career and I've quit school 5 times. I'm finally in a good program and will graduate as a respiratory therapist 12/06. i know how to work and i also know that with the help of God helped him get out of debt, graduate college, and life the lifestyle that he has become accustomed to. I've been screwed in more than one way. I'm just trying to make sure that this time I'm not at the short end of the stick. when i graduate he can go on his merry little way.

[dallas702]

You didn't say how long you have been married. How about forgiving him and going on with your life and marriage. Thousands of people do this every day and stay together for the rest of their lives. Heck, that's only gonna cost a few hundred bucks a month if he is the dad...lots cheaper than divorce.

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Originally Posted by dallas702

You didn't say how long you have been married. How about forgiving him and going on with your life and marriage. Thousands of people do this every day and stay together for the rest of their lives. Heck, that's only gonna cost a few hundred bucks a month if he is the dad...lots cheaper than divorce.

Because she wants reassurance that he will have plenty of cash so she can bleed him dry before she graduates and THEN divorce him.