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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY
We've tried counseling in the past a few times and nothing had ever changed anything. Neither of us are happy.
About a month ago, I looked for an apt for the children (2 and a special needs 4 year old) and I, and instead found a house to purchase (a family member did this for me- my name won't be attached to it until after divorce finalized). Once everything was set and my bid was accepted, I confronted my husband, told him I wanted a divorce, and that I wanted to go through a mediator if possible.
We're all currently living at an on premise house supplied by his company as part of his salary... a job that he may be losing soon which is just adding to his stress level.
Twice in the past week, while he was left home with the children, he left them alone to attend business meetings for work. One was 15 minutes with both children, the other for almost an hour with our special needs daughter.
When I confront him, he starts yelling, threatening to kill himself, and runs off. I had to miss work last night because he refused to come home to watch his children.
While he once agreed to a mediator, he's now threatening to spend all of OUR savings on his lawyers.
We have since closed on the house, repairs/ painting is being done now and it should be ready to move into in a week, but I was told that I can't take the kids there until the divorce is underway.
As it is, I'm at a loss. I'm missing work, I can't trust him to watch the children, he's threatening to take/ spend all of our money, and threatening suicide.
What can I do?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
We've tried counseling in the past a few times and nothing had ever changed anything. Neither of us are happy.
About a month ago, I looked for an apt for the children (2 and a special needs 4 year old) and I, and instead found a house to purchase (a family member did this for me- my name won't be attached to it until after divorce finalized). Once everything was set and my bid was accepted, I confronted my husband, told him I wanted a divorce, and that I wanted to go through a mediator if possible.
We're all currently living at an on premise house supplied by his company as part of his salary... a job that he may be losing soon which is just adding to his stress level.
Twice in the past week, while he was left home with the children, he left them alone to attend business meetings for work. One was 15 minutes with both children, the other for almost an hour with our special needs daughter.
When I confront him, he starts yelling, threatening to kill himself, and runs off. I had to miss work last night because he refused to come home to watch his children.
While he once agreed to a mediator, he's now threatening to spend all of OUR savings on his lawyers.
We have since closed on the house, repairs/ painting is being done now and it should be ready to move into in a week, but I was told that I can't take the kids there until the divorce is underway.
As it is, I'm at a loss. I'm missing work, I can't trust him to watch the children, he's threatening to take/ spend all of our money, and threatening suicide.
What can I do?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?