Financial claims of ex-boyfriend - legal merit?

[markymo]

What is the name of your state? Missouri

My fiance has an ex- boyfriend she parted with in 2004.

There are actually two related issues at work. One, he is exhibiting in an escalating pattern of stalkerish behavior (calling her children, calling MY children, having us followed, calling her employer and making unsubstantiated claims about her mental health, re-directing her mail to his house).

Two, he has now made a laundry list of financial claims saying that she owes him for medical insurance, car insurance and half of a series of trips they went on.

The fly in the ointment is that in approximately 2000, they signed a domestic partner affadavit (in Georgia) so he could carry her as a dependent on his medical insurance. She was completely unaware of the car insurance situation until I went to put her on my insurance and found out I couldn't because she was on his policy (we use the same company).

Is there any legal basis to his claims? He has become increasingly hostile, and while he has never been violent, his last few emails to her have been blatant attempts to coerce her into some sort of financial settlement.

Thank you for any advice you can provide.

[Ohiogal]

Did she ever say she was going to pay for any of these?

[markymo]

Right now it's a classic "he said, she said." He claims they had conversations about it, conversations she claims she doesn't remember. He has done a lot of digging, knows she's come into a windfall while he's been relying on his parents to support his living beyond his means for years.

For me the bottom line is the legal line. There were no written agreements that I'm aware of, nor any jointly entered into debt. To me it's all a little bizarre.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by markymo

Right now it's a classic "he said, she said." He claims they had conversations about it, conversations she claims she doesn't remember. He has done a lot of digging, knows she's come into a windfall while he's been relying on his parents to support his living beyond his means for years.

For me the bottom line is the legal line. There were no written agreements that I'm aware of, nor any jointly entered into debt. To me it's all a little bizarre.

If they broke up in 2004...and its now 2007, my advice is that she completely and totally ignore him, other than to file stalking and/or harassment charges against him.

If he actually sues her for something, then consult a local attorney and address it then. I sincerely doubt that he will find an attorney that is willing to take his case.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

If they broke up in 2004...and its now 2007, my advice is that she completely and totally ignore him, other than to file stalking and/or harassment charges against him.

If he actually sues her for something, then consult a local attorney and address it then. I sincerely doubt that he will find an attorney that is willing to take his case.

I agree. This mirrors the recent post where two unmarried people bought a house together and now one of those people wants to be compensated for a loan taken out to upgrade the property. No contract, no marriage, no guarantees.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

I agree. This mirrors the recent post where two unmarried people bought a house together and now one of those people wants to be compensated for a loan taken out to upgrade the property. No contract, no marriage, no guarantees.

Bali, it isn't even remotely similar.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

Bali, it isn't even remotely similar.

Well I thought the cases were similar in that the purported "victims" were both women.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

Well I thought the cases were similar in that the purported "victims" were both women.

Which is why you are losing credibility here on a daily basis.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

Which is why you are losing credibility here on a daily basis.

Are you suggesting that I had any credibility here???