Gal

[yerbudi]

What is the name of your state? MA

What happens if you cannot afford a GAL and you soon to be ex is requesting one?

[Ohiogal]

Quite frankly you come up with the money.

[yerbudi]

But what happens if it is impossible to do so???? Seriously impossible. She is being funded by her millionaire parents, I have just me.

You can't get blood for a rock...

[tuffbrk]

You're kidding right? Presumably this is in reference to your children and their best interests? You have to be able to come up with something, discuss a payment plan? You need to do something - maybe a yard sale.

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by yerbudi

But what happens if it is impossible to do so???? Seriously impossible. She is being funded by her millionaire parents, I have just me.

You can't get blood for a rock...

How much do you think a GAL is going to cost? You will most likely have to put down $350 to $1000 and then you can ask that she have to pay a percentage of the cost based on HER income.

[tuffbrk]

Daughter of a millionaire marries a man that cannot afford to pay a GAL? Sure...

[yerbudi]

Wow, talk about all of the negative people on here.

Understand...my attorney told me it will cost up to $5,000 for a GAL. This is why I am asking. $350 I can swing with payments. If you are telling me that I will have to pay $5,000 and I can make payments that stretch out over years, then yes I can handle that also...this is why I asked this question in the first place. If I had $50K in the bank, I would spend $50K to see my children. Unfortunately that is not the case here.

As for those who doubt that a daughter of a millionaire would marry me...let me tell you this. I work three jobs 16 hours a day to support her, her two kids from a previous marriage (her first ex doesn't pay child support, he is a dead beat parent), and our two kids. You will never find someone that has worked harder than I have both to keep the marriage afloat, keep the house afloat, and to be the best father that I could be.

Whenever I posted something on this website, I have always been 100% honest. Never lied. I have no reason too.

Instead of being negative and throwing accussations, try being proactive and helping out. Otherwise, just don't post.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by yerbudi

Wow, talk about all of the negative people on here.

Understand...my attorney told me it will cost up to $5,000 for a GAL. This is why I am asking. $350 I can swing with payments. If you are telling me that I will have to pay $5,000 and I can make payments that stretch out over years, then yes I can handle that also...this is why I asked this question in the first place. If I had $50K in the bank, I would spend $50K to see my children. Unfortunately that is not the case here.

As for those who doubt that a daughter of a millionaire would marry me...let me tell you this. I work three jobs 16 hours a day to support her, her two kids from a previous marriage (her first ex doesn't pay child support, he is a dead beat parent), and our two kids. You will never find someone that has worked harder than I have both to keep the marriage afloat, keep the house afloat, and to be the best father that I could be.

Whenever I posted something on this website, I have always been 100% honest. Never lied. I have no reason too.

Instead of being negative and throwing accussations, try being proactive and helping out. Otherwise, just don't post.

You won't be able to make payments like that to the GAL. You may need to take out a loan for the up front costs, and make the payments to the loan company.

I also went back and reviewed your previous thread. It may be your insistance on trying to keep your children away from their siblings that is causing them to request the GAL. If you broker a reasonable parenting schedule with mom a GAL won't be necessary.

[yerbudi]

Thanks again L.

She has gone off the deep end with the GAL request, sole physical and legal custody. Supervised visits, but I should have seen this coming when she lied to get the RO.

All because I told her that I was going to fight for custody because of her medication and alcohol consumption. That plus the fact that her kids have violently struck my daughter. Fact of the matter is, it has been 50 days since I have seen my children. What do you tell an inquisitive four year old, when she tells you she misses Daddy, or asked where Daddy is?

I have a long road ahead of me...the next court date can not come fast enough.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by yerbudi

Thanks again L.

She has gone off the deep end with the GAL request, sole physical and legal custody. Supervised visits, but I should have seen this coming when she lied to get the RO.

All because I told her that I was going to fight for custody because of her medication and alcohol consumption. That plus the fact that her kids have violently struck my daughter. Fact of the matter is, it has been 50 days since I have seen my children. What do you tell an inquisitive four year old, when she tells you she misses Daddy, or asked where Daddy is?

I have a long road ahead of me...the next court date can not come fast enough.

You didn't just tell her, you were agressive with her and said that you were going to try to keep the siblings separated. What did you expect to have happen? A GAL is normal is a contested custody case. If you didn't want to have to pay for a GAL, then you should have mediated a reasonable agreement with mom.

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

If you didn't want to have to pay for a GAL, then you should have mediated a reasonable agreement with mom.

And you still can mediate that agreement.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Silverplum

And you still can mediate that agreement.

Yes, I agree, there is still time to mediate.

[auragirrl]

Excuse me!!!!! I'm curious. What's a GAL?????? I'm tryin to figure out what those letters would stand for in reference to a divorce...but I can't for the life of me. Whatever it is, we must not have them in Ca. And I don't care if any of you laugh at me for not knowing. Be good to bring a smile to someones face.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by auragirrl

Excuse me!!!!! I'm curious. What's a GAL?????? I'm tryin to figure out what those letters would stand for in reference to a divorce...but I can't for the life of me. Whatever it is, we must not have them in Ca. And I don't care if any of you laugh at me for not knowing. Be good to bring a smile to someones face.

GAL= Guardian ad Litem.

They are court professionals that assist the judge in determining what is in the best interest of the child. They are advocates for the child's best interest. You DO have them in CA.

[tuffbrk]

Originally Posted by auragirrl

Excuse me!!!!! I'm curious. What's a GAL?????? I'm tryin to figure out what those letters would stand for in reference to a divorce...but I can't for the life of me. Whatever it is, we must not have them in Ca. And I don't care if any of you laugh at me for not knowing. Be good to bring a smile to someones face.

Just a quick note - it's fine to ask questions. The purpose of the forum is to assist us non-lawyer types in learning about the law so that we are better prepared for the reality of court. Users come on-line to search the posts/threads for correct legal information. It is important that you don't attempt to answer your own questions or make sweeping pronouncements when you do not have the knowledge to do so as other users may be misled.

So, for example, you didn't know what GAL stood for, nor did you know the role that they play in a divorce. It's perfectly acceptable to ask the question. But then you make the statement that CA must not have them. You would have had no way of knowing as you didn't even know what the letters stood for. Although it probably seems like harmless chatter to you, the purpose of the forum is to obtain correct information. Hope this helps you to understand that you need to edit those types of comments from your posts in the future.

Have a happy day.

Thanks.