Darthlighter
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas
Long story short. My wife cheated on me during my deployment, took the money I earned out of an account I have, that she still has access to, put it into an account only she had access to(roughly $30k), became emotionally and physically abusive after my return. We got in an argument about the money she took from my account, which lead to her kicking me out of "her house", we where living in a house her father owned. she threatened to call the police and claim abuse if I didn't leave. A few months later my daughter was born, and I requested a paternity test, shortly after we got the results back my wife filed for divorce, we were still separated. she refused me visitation until our temporary hearing, she requested a digital video camera or my laptop computer, both were gifts and she already had a camera and a computer. She also wanted me to have supervised visitation at her residents, she claimed I had no experience with children and that my back injury prevented me from adequately caring for the child. My wife received the camera as a sign of "good faith" my lawyer suggested so that my wife would work with the visitation. I agreed to have supervised visitation at her residents as long as she was not present(do to her abuse towards me) and my mother supervise for 30 days. however my wife's lawyer wrote up the agreement. and nothing I agreed to ended up in the paperwork except the 30 day time frame, my lawyer did nothing to correct it, so my wife had free reign to interrupt my visitation. After the 30 days were up my wife refused to let me have my daughter unless supervised. My lawyer has done nothing to stop this. A few weeks later, my wife suggested trying to reconcile for the children(she has a daughter from a previous marriage). I agreed as long as she did not treat me like she did before and that she got help. A month went by and she started being abusive again. We got in an argument about my employment, and I decided to leave. While I was packing my wife was getting in my face yelling at me, and refused to stop after I asked her several times to get out of my face. After I was done packing and tried to leave the bedroom, she blocked the door, refused to let me by while she continued to yell. I finally got frustrated enough to grab her shoulders and move her just enough to let me by the door. She started yelling at me again, this time claiming I just physically abused her. I put my bags by the front door, returned to the bedroom to get my cell phone to call for a ride, during this time my wife picked up our daughter who was crying(she doesn't like yelling) and returned to getting in my face, yelling again. I asked her several times to get out of my face again, when she said "what are you going to do about it" I tried to sidestep her, in which she slapped me, out of reaction I slapped her back and did not realize it until she said she couldn't believe I "finally" hit her back. I then called for a ride. During or reconciliation my wife revealed that she was put in a mental institution for two weeks after our temporary hearing for attacking her dad. She also revealed that the money she took from the account was given to her father. We had mediation, did not come to an agreement because I refused due to her lying. I found out during mediation that she filed a police report stating I pushed her and beat her the day I left. My lawyer also stated during mediation that she would put my daughter in foster care if it was up to her, because neither my wife nor I deserve her. My lawyer has never listened to me sense I hired her. When I was told to get paperwork for discovery, she refused to request the same from my wife, she refused to get the police report from the day my wife was institutionalized, when my wife threatened my mother with not seeing her granddaughter again if I didn't give in to her, my lawyer refused to speak to my mother, stating "I'm an adult, and I should not need my mother to vouch for me". I have not seen my daughter in over 2 months. My lawyer and I agreed to $1k down and $100 a month, she keeps increasing her rates and refuses to take care of my visitation issues if i don't pay 700 upfront, and 3500 to contest, I've already paid several hundred and not have anything done. I'm on a fixed income and can't afford her increases anymore nor another lawyer because I've already invested everything I could spare for this one. I feel like I'm being walked over by my wife and lawyer. Is there anything I can do so I don't lose my daughter?
Long story short. My wife cheated on me during my deployment, took the money I earned out of an account I have, that she still has access to, put it into an account only she had access to(roughly $30k), became emotionally and physically abusive after my return. We got in an argument about the money she took from my account, which lead to her kicking me out of "her house", we where living in a house her father owned. she threatened to call the police and claim abuse if I didn't leave. A few months later my daughter was born, and I requested a paternity test, shortly after we got the results back my wife filed for divorce, we were still separated. she refused me visitation until our temporary hearing, she requested a digital video camera or my laptop computer, both were gifts and she already had a camera and a computer. She also wanted me to have supervised visitation at her residents, she claimed I had no experience with children and that my back injury prevented me from adequately caring for the child. My wife received the camera as a sign of "good faith" my lawyer suggested so that my wife would work with the visitation. I agreed to have supervised visitation at her residents as long as she was not present(do to her abuse towards me) and my mother supervise for 30 days. however my wife's lawyer wrote up the agreement. and nothing I agreed to ended up in the paperwork except the 30 day time frame, my lawyer did nothing to correct it, so my wife had free reign to interrupt my visitation. After the 30 days were up my wife refused to let me have my daughter unless supervised. My lawyer has done nothing to stop this. A few weeks later, my wife suggested trying to reconcile for the children(she has a daughter from a previous marriage). I agreed as long as she did not treat me like she did before and that she got help. A month went by and she started being abusive again. We got in an argument about my employment, and I decided to leave. While I was packing my wife was getting in my face yelling at me, and refused to stop after I asked her several times to get out of my face. After I was done packing and tried to leave the bedroom, she blocked the door, refused to let me by while she continued to yell. I finally got frustrated enough to grab her shoulders and move her just enough to let me by the door. She started yelling at me again, this time claiming I just physically abused her. I put my bags by the front door, returned to the bedroom to get my cell phone to call for a ride, during this time my wife picked up our daughter who was crying(she doesn't like yelling) and returned to getting in my face, yelling again. I asked her several times to get out of my face again, when she said "what are you going to do about it" I tried to sidestep her, in which she slapped me, out of reaction I slapped her back and did not realize it until she said she couldn't believe I "finally" hit her back. I then called for a ride. During or reconciliation my wife revealed that she was put in a mental institution for two weeks after our temporary hearing for attacking her dad. She also revealed that the money she took from the account was given to her father. We had mediation, did not come to an agreement because I refused due to her lying. I found out during mediation that she filed a police report stating I pushed her and beat her the day I left. My lawyer also stated during mediation that she would put my daughter in foster care if it was up to her, because neither my wife nor I deserve her. My lawyer has never listened to me sense I hired her. When I was told to get paperwork for discovery, she refused to request the same from my wife, she refused to get the police report from the day my wife was institutionalized, when my wife threatened my mother with not seeing her granddaughter again if I didn't give in to her, my lawyer refused to speak to my mother, stating "I'm an adult, and I should not need my mother to vouch for me". I have not seen my daughter in over 2 months. My lawyer and I agreed to $1k down and $100 a month, she keeps increasing her rates and refuses to take care of my visitation issues if i don't pay 700 upfront, and 3500 to contest, I've already paid several hundred and not have anything done. I'm on a fixed income and can't afford her increases anymore nor another lawyer because I've already invested everything I could spare for this one. I feel like I'm being walked over by my wife and lawyer. Is there anything I can do so I don't lose my daughter?