Girlfriend went back on agreement. Please help.

[DougDB7]

Whilst I was with my ex girlfriend, she found herself in a bit of trouble financial wise. She was about to move into a new house and needed money for the deposit. Being the fool that I am, I offered to pay it for her. Since then we have obviously broken up. Immediately after the break up we agreed that she would repay the money over time. I didn't pressure her in any way and didn't kick up any fuss when months had passed and no money had been paid. Finally I got back in touch and asked where she was up to regarding the money. She replied saying that she owed me no money and that nothing would be repaid. So I was wondering if anybody knew whether I have any claim on the deposit I paid? Is there a way that I can get that money back for the letting agency? I paid it with my own personal debit card, so I imagine they have that information still on record. I know that I have been a total idiot throughout this situation, but I'm young and have since put the whole affair down to a learning experience.

 

[Zigner]

Whilst I was with my ex girlfriend, she found herself in a bit of trouble financial wise. She was about to move into a new house and needed money for the deposit. Being the fool that I am, I offered to pay it for her. Since then we have obviously broken up. Immediately after the break up we agreed that she would repay the money over time. I didn't pressure her in any way and didn't kick up any fuss when months had passed and no money had been paid. Finally I got back in touch and asked where she was up to regarding the money. She replied saying that she owed me no money and that nothing would be repaid. So I was wondering if anybody knew whether I have any claim on the deposit I paid? Is there a way that I can get that money back for the letting agency? I paid it with my own personal debit card, so I imagine they have that information still on record. I know that I have been a total idiot throughout this situation, but I'm young and have since put the whole affair down to a learning experience.

What US state?

ETA: Generally, here in the US, you can't take back a "gift". If you paid the deposit as a gift with no expectation, then you can't change it in to a loan when you break up. Even if she agreed to pay it back, you can't force her to.

 

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"Whilst" you were posting, you forgot to name your US state.

 

[FarmerJ]

Letting agency = a ocean away? chalk it up to a lesson learned.