A Good Case for Annulment

[TDP]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas

I believe I have a good case for an annulment but wanted to see how a lawyer would view it. I have been married for a year. I found out my husband has not been working because he is looking a porn all day. He also is contacting women on date sites. He lies to them and tries to get them to call him. He has admitted to being a sex addict. I have e-mails from him stating that he has had this problem but always too scared to admit it. I have 10 year old daugther and immediatly filed for divorce and threw him out. Now I am thinking that an annulment would be more correct to file.

 

[tranquility]

An annulment tends to take longer and be more expensive. Also, it tends to regard fraud in the inducement. (You want to have kids and he knew he was sterile.)

What advantage do you seek for an annulment over a divorce?

 

[mistoffolees]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas

I believe I have a good case for an annulment but wanted to see how a lawyer would view it. I have been married for a year. I found out my husband has not been working because he is looking a porn all day. He also is contacting women on date sites. He lies to them and tries to get them to call him. He has admitted to being a sex addict. I have e-mails from him stating that he has had this problem but always too scared to admit it. I have 10 year old daugther and immediatly filed for divorce and threw him out. Now I am thinking that an annulment would be more correct to file.

On what grounds? Sorry, but scumminess isn't grounds for annulment in any state that I know of.

Just get the divorce. It's usually quicker and less expensive.

BTW, how could it take you a year to realize he wasn't working?

 

[TDP]

An annulment tends to take longer and be more expensive. Also, it tends to regard fraud in the inducement. (You want to have kids and he knew he was sterile.)

What advantage do you seek for an annulment over a divorce?

It is a personal feeling I have. I feel that I was deceived and lied to and wanted the dissolution of the marriage to reflect that. I think it was fraudulent because he knew I had a kid and he had this kind of problem. It seems very unfair to me and my daughter.

 

[TDP]

On what grounds? Sorry, but scumminess isn't grounds for annulment in any state that I know of.

Just get the divorce. It's usually quicker and less expensive.

BTW, how could it take you a year to realize he wasn't working?

He would work for a couple of months and quit. He lied about why he wasn't working. After the 3rd job, I knew something was wrong but did not know what. It took a few months after that and then I found the evidence of what he was doing.

 

[seniorjudge]

You have no grounds for annulment.

 

[TDP]

If I knew the man was a sex addict, I would not have married him. He had a problem and lied about it. If this is not fraud, then please tell me how it should be defined?

 

[tranquility]

If this is not fraud, then please tell me how it should be defined?

He's an imature male?

I believe I have a good case for an annulment but wanted to see how a lawyer would view it

You do not have a good case, but there are things you could argue.

He also is contacting women on date sites.

Not fraud, immature male.

He lies to them and tries to get them to call him.

Male or female.

He has admitted to being a sex addict.

Good. There are places to get help, especially in the Christian community.

I have e-mails from him stating that he has had this problem but always too scared to admit it.

This is a shocker. Who among us feel free to admit our problems to the one's we love?

I have 10 year old daugther and immediatly filed for divorce and threw him out.

That's certainly a choice. Not really a "better or worse" choice, but a choice.

Now I am thinking that an annulment would be more correct to file.

Nope. But it seems like you want to blame others for your mistakes, so knock yourself out.

 

[tuffbrk]

Go ahead - claim fraud and file for an annulment. he'll counter stating that as soon as you found out abut his illness you abandoned him. If he's not working, you may have to pay support to him until the final divorce comes through.

It's always such a pleasure to come across folks that are supportive of their spouses and try to help them work through issues as a team. You're such a loving, supportive spouse it's incredible.

And uh, yeah sure - the whole time you dated he maintained one position and none of this started until after the wedding!

And who cares if there is a child in the house? If it took YOU a year to find out after investigating, how would a child who is in school or daycare be affected?! You don't need to falsely exaggerate the circumstances to validate your outrage - you don't approve, fine. You don't want to remain married as he attempts to work through this? Fine. You're not interested in marriage counseling? Fine. That's all you have to say, you don't need to bring a child into it-even on a forum.