ZiggityDiggity
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? FL
Before anyone says “Stupid” I already know, with age comes wisdom.
I got married at 15 to get away from a bad home life.
The man I married was 21, we lived in Florida. My mother sighed a consent form. We went to South Carolina, because it was one of the few states that a 15 year old could marry with a parents consent.
When we came back to Florida the marriage fell apart. There was lots of abuse, every time he saw me in public he’d ripe my clothes off of me, he raped me, and would leave me for days with no food or money. I was scared to death of him. I learned to stay clear of him, and went on with my life. I had three wonderful kids, all over 18 and adults now.
We married in 1969, stayed together off and on for two years. Since 1971 I have only seen him once, and that was in 1980, He walked up to me and I didn’t even know who he was until he spoke to me. And it was a very short conversation, I was speechless and in shock. But he said he got a divorce. He also added that he could have walked up to me and killed me, and I wouldn’t have known who did it.
Now I haven’t seen him for 26 years. My health has gotten really bad I have had diabetes for 19 years and I have had COPD for a little over a year, and have been on oxygen 24/7 for the last year. So my medical bills are really consuming. But I really need a divorce or some legal separation from him before I die. Now my question is do I need a divorce? How do I find him? Can I do the divorce without a lawyer? How can I find out if he really divorced me?
I really love this site and search it a lot (it’s much better than realism TV) I found something on bigamy and searched some more and found this.
Florida Statutes Chapter 826 BIGAMY;
(1) Who reasonably believes that the prior
spouse is dead.
(2) Whose prior spouse has voluntarily
deserted him or her and remained absent
for the space of 3 years continuously, the
party marrying again not knowing the
other to be living within that time.
How would I find out if he was still living? And can some one tell me what (2) means as far as getting remarried?
I do appreciate all advice I get on this forum, and do respect every ones views.
Thank you,
Before anyone says “Stupid” I already know, with age comes wisdom.
I got married at 15 to get away from a bad home life.
The man I married was 21, we lived in Florida. My mother sighed a consent form. We went to South Carolina, because it was one of the few states that a 15 year old could marry with a parents consent.
When we came back to Florida the marriage fell apart. There was lots of abuse, every time he saw me in public he’d ripe my clothes off of me, he raped me, and would leave me for days with no food or money. I was scared to death of him. I learned to stay clear of him, and went on with my life. I had three wonderful kids, all over 18 and adults now.
We married in 1969, stayed together off and on for two years. Since 1971 I have only seen him once, and that was in 1980, He walked up to me and I didn’t even know who he was until he spoke to me. And it was a very short conversation, I was speechless and in shock. But he said he got a divorce. He also added that he could have walked up to me and killed me, and I wouldn’t have known who did it.
Now I haven’t seen him for 26 years. My health has gotten really bad I have had diabetes for 19 years and I have had COPD for a little over a year, and have been on oxygen 24/7 for the last year. So my medical bills are really consuming. But I really need a divorce or some legal separation from him before I die. Now my question is do I need a divorce? How do I find him? Can I do the divorce without a lawyer? How can I find out if he really divorced me?
I really love this site and search it a lot (it’s much better than realism TV) I found something on bigamy and searched some more and found this.
Florida Statutes Chapter 826 BIGAMY;
(1) Who reasonably believes that the prior
spouse is dead.
(2) Whose prior spouse has voluntarily
deserted him or her and remained absent
for the space of 3 years continuously, the
party marrying again not knowing the
other to be living within that time.
How would I find out if he was still living? And can some one tell me what (2) means as far as getting remarried?
I do appreciate all advice I get on this forum, and do respect every ones views.
Thank you,