vrzirn said:
My original post seems to have gotten lost in the middle of the dialogue between IAAL and OOfatso.
I do agree that trying to arrive at a civil and equitable agreement without expensive legal help is the best course. However, there is a point when enough is enough and is does not matter whether you are in your forties or eighties. Romance can and does arrive at any age and is no less sweet when a person is a senior citizen.
Even without romance, an exciting, happy and interesting life can be lived with friends who share interests. Often, just the mental peace is sufficient.
My response:
Oh, I do agree. Don't get me wrong - - if these two are hell-bent for a divorce, then eventually a judge will grant one. All I'm saying is that a good judge will place many hurdles in their way before one is granted.
No judge likes to see a long-lived marriage end. A good judge will try to do everything in his or her power to try and convince the couple to stay together, including an order of counseling, mediation, and attempting other alternatives like "legal separation".
Of course love can blossom again, and at an old age. But, look at the ridiculousness of it. These people are in their twilight years, and they're not considering divorce so that they can marry others. Perhaps a separation for a period would better serve them, than flat out dissolution. That's what a judge will attempt to explore.
Also, the attorneys for each party will strongly encourage counseling prior to any court appearance. It would also be in their best interests from a monetary standpoint - - especially at their ages.
But, in the final analysis, when all is said and done, and there's no hope left, you're right.
IAAL