ncgolfnbuddy
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What is the name of your state? NC
My husband has been taking care of our finances for about a year and a half. Recently, I decided to check up on things because I felt that we didn't have as much cash as we should. I make good money and he doesn't do too bad either - I thought we were in great shape for such a young couple. When I started researching our financials, I found out that he had accumulated over 40k in credit card debt alone - paying cards with cards?...still haven't figured that one out - can't figure out what happened to the cash either - we don't have anything real to show for all the money that is missing! On top of that, we have over 30k in vehicle loans and 200k in a home that is not even a year old. BTW, alot of the credit card debt is in my name - he just applied for the cards using my SSN and added himself as an authorized user.
I am disgusted with the lies and lack of remorse. We can't even afford to have kids now because I can barely make minimum payments and buy gas/groceries - yes, I took the bills and finances away from him. I am miserable with him in the same house.
How can I file for separation and not lose everything?!? I make more money than him, so I assume that I am not eligible for alimony. Bankruptcy is NOT an option - I have worked too hard on my credit. Anyone know what kind of options I have when it comes to the division of debt during permanent separation?
My husband has been taking care of our finances for about a year and a half. Recently, I decided to check up on things because I felt that we didn't have as much cash as we should. I make good money and he doesn't do too bad either - I thought we were in great shape for such a young couple. When I started researching our financials, I found out that he had accumulated over 40k in credit card debt alone - paying cards with cards?...still haven't figured that one out - can't figure out what happened to the cash either - we don't have anything real to show for all the money that is missing! On top of that, we have over 30k in vehicle loans and 200k in a home that is not even a year old. BTW, alot of the credit card debt is in my name - he just applied for the cards using my SSN and added himself as an authorized user.
I am disgusted with the lies and lack of remorse. We can't even afford to have kids now because I can barely make minimum payments and buy gas/groceries - yes, I took the bills and finances away from him. I am miserable with him in the same house.
How can I file for separation and not lose everything?!? I make more money than him, so I assume that I am not eligible for alimony. Bankruptcy is NOT an option - I have worked too hard on my credit. Anyone know what kind of options I have when it comes to the division of debt during permanent separation?
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