wondering2004
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? IL
brief story...married 11 years...husband has some emotional/menta "issues" that he sought therapy for years ago but only briefly. Since having kids we have fought about his drug use a lot. We also have fought about his not getting help for his "issues". Last winter he became very verbally abusive and a tad physically. Mostly intimidation tactics (busting open doors..threatening to kill me ...those kind of things). This past August we talked and agreed (when he is not "down" he is quite a nice guy) that he would (or us together if he wants) schedule therapy or I was going to take the kids and leave. It is December so I am thinking I need to follow thru on this because I don't want to live with someone I am afraid of and when I am not afraid...I am just anticipating the next time I am going to be afraid. ANYWAY - he has access to free lawyers....I am a stay at home mom..I am totally dependent on him financially ..we have two kids under 3...I am working on getting to a place where I can go and not be afraid of him destroying me but in the mean time I was wondering if anyone could advise me on things I could be doing. I did not document anything that happened before...should i write it all down and have someone hold it for me? What can I do ahead of time to ensure that I get custody of the children (my main concern) even though he will have the financial and legal resources that I do not.
any advice is appreciated. THanks
brief story...married 11 years...husband has some emotional/menta "issues" that he sought therapy for years ago but only briefly. Since having kids we have fought about his drug use a lot. We also have fought about his not getting help for his "issues". Last winter he became very verbally abusive and a tad physically. Mostly intimidation tactics (busting open doors..threatening to kill me ...those kind of things). This past August we talked and agreed (when he is not "down" he is quite a nice guy) that he would (or us together if he wants) schedule therapy or I was going to take the kids and leave. It is December so I am thinking I need to follow thru on this because I don't want to live with someone I am afraid of and when I am not afraid...I am just anticipating the next time I am going to be afraid. ANYWAY - he has access to free lawyers....I am a stay at home mom..I am totally dependent on him financially ..we have two kids under 3...I am working on getting to a place where I can go and not be afraid of him destroying me but in the mean time I was wondering if anyone could advise me on things I could be doing. I did not document anything that happened before...should i write it all down and have someone hold it for me? What can I do ahead of time to ensure that I get custody of the children (my main concern) even though he will have the financial and legal resources that I do not.
any advice is appreciated. THanks