How do I negotiate for what I think is fair.

[Used]

What is the name of your state? Maryland
This is not really a legal question as much as it is a strategy question. I have been the major breadwinner and he has worked below his capacity. I supported him through 4 years of education, additional course work, a sideline business that he has let slide to a minimum, medical expenses and now he wants half my retirement and 1/2 of the sale of the home that I earned the money for while he attended school. I earned and saved my retirement money for many years. Even though some of it is from before the marriage, he still stands to walk away with quite a bit of money, 1/2 the sale of the house and all that I supported. That doesn't seem right to me. Any advice on how to argue for what I think is fair?
Used.

[fairisfair]

You need to hire a good divorce attorney. No one here is going to be able to help you formulate a strategy.

[nextwife]

Premarital house value and premarital retirement accumulations is NOT included unless he is co owner. Fight him on that. ONLY assets accumulated DURING the marriage are shared- regardless of who earned what. Many men face the same scenario - wife did not earn to capacity, was underemployed or unemployed and did NOT contribute financially- they still end up splitting house and retirement..

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by nextwife

Premarital house value and premarital retirement accumulations is NOT included unless he is co owner. Fight him on that. ONLY assets accumulated DURING the marriage are shared- regardless of who earned what. Many men face the same scenario - wife did not earn to capacity, was underemployed or unemployed and did NOT contribute financially- they still end up splitting house and retirement..

And paying alimony. A prospect that OP could face since she "has been the major breadwinner".

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

And paying alimony. A prospect that OP could face since she "has been the major breadwinner".

Indeed, Many guys who did their spouse the favor of a few years of not working or working MINIMALLY end up punished for giving their spouse a few years "off" work. SS, at least temporarilly is a possibilty, depending on length of marriage.