The state is Colorado.
My wife and I are getting a divorce but neither has filed paper work. She would like to move out with the children (2.5 boy and 8 girl). She has found a rental (condo) place that is not far from school and is in good neighbor hood. She does not have employment, but worked less than two years ago in a managment capacity.
This all sounds good, but she presented me with a temporary contract where I was bounded to the lease and was giving primary care and 80% visitation rights to her. We were a single income family (barely making the bills in one house) and cannot afford two places. She says that we can live in the same space (primary) any longer. Well my attorney viewed the contract and said no way at this point until we start our petitions and flow througth Colorado system. When I told her this she split with children and went a unknown hotel.
Okay! My side is that I am a non travelling working dad that wants the kids half the time. I am pretty close to that now except when I am working she takes care of the youngest. All I want isto split half the assets and get nearly half the time with the kids! No problems of violence or criminal activity on either side! I hear through reliable sources that she intends to "screw me" so naturally I am cautious! She likes to have control over situations and probably feels that she is the more worth parent to raise the children. She would be willing to let me have extra time, but only if I ask nicely!
So the 99 dollar question is how do I let her move out of the primary (she doesn't want) without braking the financial bank? How do I position myself to get the children 1/2 the time with there dad. Isn't fair 50/50? I could see if I was some dead beat, but I am responsible loving dad. By the way the daughter and mom have conflicts continously and their personalities clash! The daughter probably favors dad and the little boy is pretty neutral.
I have offered some lump some of cash to get her by for three months while we are waiting for the divorce to transition. I am more willing to be fair (50/50) and even allow a little extra time for the young one and mom, but I will not be stripped of my time with my children with a 80/20 rule.
Thanks....
My wife and I are getting a divorce but neither has filed paper work. She would like to move out with the children (2.5 boy and 8 girl). She has found a rental (condo) place that is not far from school and is in good neighbor hood. She does not have employment, but worked less than two years ago in a managment capacity.
This all sounds good, but she presented me with a temporary contract where I was bounded to the lease and was giving primary care and 80% visitation rights to her. We were a single income family (barely making the bills in one house) and cannot afford two places. She says that we can live in the same space (primary) any longer. Well my attorney viewed the contract and said no way at this point until we start our petitions and flow througth Colorado system. When I told her this she split with children and went a unknown hotel.
Okay! My side is that I am a non travelling working dad that wants the kids half the time. I am pretty close to that now except when I am working she takes care of the youngest. All I want isto split half the assets and get nearly half the time with the kids! No problems of violence or criminal activity on either side! I hear through reliable sources that she intends to "screw me" so naturally I am cautious! She likes to have control over situations and probably feels that she is the more worth parent to raise the children. She would be willing to let me have extra time, but only if I ask nicely!
So the 99 dollar question is how do I let her move out of the primary (she doesn't want) without braking the financial bank? How do I position myself to get the children 1/2 the time with there dad. Isn't fair 50/50? I could see if I was some dead beat, but I am responsible loving dad. By the way the daughter and mom have conflicts continously and their personalities clash! The daughter probably favors dad and the little boy is pretty neutral.
I have offered some lump some of cash to get her by for three months while we are waiting for the divorce to transition. I am more willing to be fair (50/50) and even allow a little extra time for the young one and mom, but I will not be stripped of my time with my children with a 80/20 rule.
Thanks....