Hey LD we have no basis to KNOW that this woman didn't work. She is from California -- she could be an actress. She could someone in the biz. She could have some money. She is young enough to be computer literate and online asking an internet forum so why don't all of us not make assumptions and ask the questions that need asked.
What are the current incomes?
Are both of you retired?
Either of you employed?
Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.
Attorney-GAL in Ohio.
I've removed the knife from my back, polished it, and will one day return it -- long after you think I have forgotten.