iamtiredofcourt
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What is the name of your state? CA
okay I am so confused with my divorce right now. Here is what I need to know..please
I am not positive what a DOD is, and my ex's lawyer was supposed to have a settlement agreement to me 4 months ago. She promised the courts she would have it to me 2 weeks after her first court appearance in this case. She didn't get it to me, I gave her my address in court. 60 days later she wasted my time again and promised the court she would have it to me in 2 days. She didnt, and 60 days after that she didnt even show up and phoned in (wich made the judge mad) and then lied and said she was under the impression that my ex had served me with a DOD and that she had no way of contacting me. At the previous court the judge had me give her my address? And my ex has been in contact with me every week since the beginning by email and by phone.
We are in agreement on all matters except need to reach an agreement on the settlement agreement on all debts incurred during the marriage. I have asked numerous times to get all records on debts and have not recieved it. So I said I will pay once I can verify what I owe. The lawyer told me last time she would send me all that information along with the settlement agreement. She didn't this has been 4 months and she has done nothing.
What I do know is that she is trying to gather information about my child support payments, 700 month for 2 children (3 yrs, 1 yr) w/26% custody (wich I got screwed on) I was out of work for 2 months and my ex said it was okay to not pay to get back on my feet (I should have known better) now she is throwing that back in my face. She is gathering information about me not paying for our "colloected debts" wich I can't verify because they are being uncooperative. And my ex is not cooperating with my visitations, making it difficult to have them on my scheduled days and keeping a log of all the times I was either unable to pick them up or when she was unwilling to drop them off (but she is saying it is my responsibilty to pick up and drop off, when that was not stated in the custody agreement).
She is up to something but I don't know what, or what to do?!
I am thinking I get my phone records to show that she has always had contatc with me and her lawyer could have easily gotten that information from her (she never returned my calls)
I am trying to obtain the transcripts of when I gave her my address in court.
How do I deal with her lying saying she didn't know my ex didn't serve the DOD and that she couldn't contatct me and that she was told by my ex that I recieved all information on the debts?
I am very very very frustrated as my ex is threatening to get my visitations reduced from 26% to weekends only and that she is going to move out of town and take them. I think this is her ultimate goal, but short term I know she is trying to get as money out of me as possible as she has stated to me that she is going to make me broke.
Please help..
okay I am so confused with my divorce right now. Here is what I need to know..please
I am not positive what a DOD is, and my ex's lawyer was supposed to have a settlement agreement to me 4 months ago. She promised the courts she would have it to me 2 weeks after her first court appearance in this case. She didn't get it to me, I gave her my address in court. 60 days later she wasted my time again and promised the court she would have it to me in 2 days. She didnt, and 60 days after that she didnt even show up and phoned in (wich made the judge mad) and then lied and said she was under the impression that my ex had served me with a DOD and that she had no way of contacting me. At the previous court the judge had me give her my address? And my ex has been in contact with me every week since the beginning by email and by phone.
We are in agreement on all matters except need to reach an agreement on the settlement agreement on all debts incurred during the marriage. I have asked numerous times to get all records on debts and have not recieved it. So I said I will pay once I can verify what I owe. The lawyer told me last time she would send me all that information along with the settlement agreement. She didn't this has been 4 months and she has done nothing.
What I do know is that she is trying to gather information about my child support payments, 700 month for 2 children (3 yrs, 1 yr) w/26% custody (wich I got screwed on) I was out of work for 2 months and my ex said it was okay to not pay to get back on my feet (I should have known better) now she is throwing that back in my face. She is gathering information about me not paying for our "colloected debts" wich I can't verify because they are being uncooperative. And my ex is not cooperating with my visitations, making it difficult to have them on my scheduled days and keeping a log of all the times I was either unable to pick them up or when she was unwilling to drop them off (but she is saying it is my responsibilty to pick up and drop off, when that was not stated in the custody agreement).
She is up to something but I don't know what, or what to do?!
I am thinking I get my phone records to show that she has always had contatc with me and her lawyer could have easily gotten that information from her (she never returned my calls)
I am trying to obtain the transcripts of when I gave her my address in court.
How do I deal with her lying saying she didn't know my ex didn't serve the DOD and that she couldn't contatct me and that she was told by my ex that I recieved all information on the debts?
I am very very very frustrated as my ex is threatening to get my visitations reduced from 26% to weekends only and that she is going to move out of town and take them. I think this is her ultimate goal, but short term I know she is trying to get as money out of me as possible as she has stated to me that she is going to make me broke.
Please help..