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i have been told recently by a mutual friend of my fiance and his future ex- to be, that she (the ex-)delivered an ultimatum to the friend, in which she make a choice as to who she is going to be friends with, because she can't abide the friend being friends with all of us. My last post may or may not have been catty, I however have noticed that this soon to be ex-wife brings out the worst in people that she is in contact with.
i have been told that Because ca. is a no-fault state, my fiance can not obtain a divorce with grounds to mental cruelty and deriliction of affection is this true?? I've been told that in ca. the court is only interested in the "bottom line" is this true?? I've been told, that because she is a woman and the marriage was "long term" that she is almost gauranteed spousal support, Is this also true?? or will the court make a ruling on extenuating circumstances? i myself have been married more than once, and i guess i don't understand why some women just can't call it quits and just walk away. i guess some women have no pride or self-esteem, in that they would give anyone the satisfaction of showing that the man is needed for anything when it's over. she (the ex) has already been on her own for a year, and now suddenly she is going after him, because he is happy and she wants him to be miserable, which she has told several people."he's going to pay", she has also threatened me with bodily injury,twice in person and once over the phone and i don't feel especially safe, what can i do for him and myself in this regard??