Interested in filing and need to know my rights...

[Jogreg]

What is the name of your state? New Jersey

I'm intersted in getting some advise before I go ahead and decide to file. My husband and I are separated - I moved out in April of 2005 leaving with only a few of my belongings, most of what I own is still in New Jersey (I'm now living in Brooklyn, NY). We were married in November of 2000; living together since July of 1990 in Brooklyn, NY; moved in Nov/Dec of 1990 to New Jersey - the house purchased was paid for and is under his name.

I'm interested in filing a "no contest" divorce - I think it's what this calls for. Since there was no abuse or adultery or anything like that - this is more just the deterioration of a relationship because of a lot of "other" factors. I know that neither of us thought we'd ever be here. But...

Before I left we tried to make things better, but I was still unhappy and knew that I no longer belonged there. After I left we tried counseling for a while, but to no avail - it's just irreconcilable.

So here it is...what are my legal rights? What am I entitled to from the years I'd invested in the relationship and the marriage and what is he entitled to from me for the same?

I'm really looking to make this as amicable a process as possible. I'm not really interested in anything more than what I'm legally entitled to.

Any advice you send my way would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? New JerseyWhat is the name of your state?

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by Jogreg

What is the name of your state? New Jersey

I'm intersted in getting some advise before I go ahead and decide to file. My husband and I are separated - I moved out in April of 2005 leaving with only a few of my belongings, most of what I own is still in New Jersey (I'm now living in Brooklyn, NY). We were married in November of 2000; living together since July of 1990 in Brooklyn, NY; moved in Nov/Dec of 1990 to New Jersey - the house purchased was paid for and is under his name.

You need to file in New York

I'm interested in filing a "no contest" divorce - I think it's what this calls for. Since there was no abuse or adultery or anything like that - this is more just the deterioration of a relationship because of a lot of "other" factors. I know that neither of us thought we'd ever be here. But...

Before I left we tried to make things better, but I was still unhappy and knew that I no longer belonged there. After I left we tried counseling for a while, but to no avail - it's just irreconcilable.

So here it is...what are my legal rights? What am I entitled to from the years I'd invested in the relationship and the marriage and what is he entitled to from me for the same?

You are entitled to an equitable amount of "marital" assets. (Doesn't sound like the house is one of them).

If you both cannot agree on a settlement, the court will do that for you. And things may not necessarily be divided 50/50.

I'm really looking to make this as amicable a process as possible. I'm not really interested in anything more than what I'm legally entitled to.

That's a determination made by the court and will vary from court to court.

Any advice you send my way would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time.What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? New JerseyWhat is the name of your state?

How is your job going?

[erosePA]

sorry to hear it didn't work out. they say 46% of the time it ends in divorce.

[BelizeBreeze]

Was the home purchased during the marriage and if so, from what funds?

[Jogreg]

To Bali Hai: My job is going fine. But what does that have to do with it??

To BelizeBreeze: He purchased the house, with his funds, I paid household bills, he paid the mortage. His mother lived with us for a time, I was still in college and he paid most bills and took care of her.

[Jogreg]

To BelizeBreeze - the house was purchased before we were married. We were together for 11 years before we were married and married for 5.

Thanks again.