Living apart and Adultery

[LouLouBell23]

What is the name of your state? Louisiana

If my date of separation is 10/06/06 and I have already filed for a divorce, can my wife claim that I committed adultery on 1/06/07, three months after we have been living apart and I now have my own apartment?

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state? Louisiana

If my date of separtation is 10/06/06 and I have already filed for a divorce, can my wife claim that I committed adultery on 1/06/07, three months after we have been living apart and I now have my own apartment?

Of course she can....may as well invite her to join in

[CJane]

That depends. Did you have sex with her or someone else?

[LouLouBell23]

Well...a female friend stopped by to drop a gift off from her New Year's Las Vegas trip and I invited her in for a little while (with absolutely no intentions or acts of adultery and in the middle of the day.) She left a little while after that and my soon to be ex's PI followed her to her work after she stopped by her house to change clothes and get ready for work. What I don't understand is how can anyone say that I committed adultery just by having someone in my apartment when I have been living apart from my wife and in the process of getting a divorce for three months now.

[snostar]

What I don't understand is how can anyone say that I committed adultery just by having someone in my apartment when I have been living apart from my wife and in the process of getting a divorce for three months now.

Anyone (even your wife) can say or claim anything they like, the USA is a wonderful place. Be prepared, it's as simple as that.

[BelizeBreeze]

Well...a female friend stopped by to drop a gift off from her New Year's Las Vegas trip and I invited her in for a little while (with absolutely no intentions or acts of adultery and in the middle of the day.) She left a little while after that and my soon to be ex's PI followed her to her work after she stopped by her house to change clothes and get ready for work. What I don't understand is how can anyone say that I committed adultery just by having someone in my apartment when I have been living apart from my wife and in the process of getting a divorce for three months now.

You have GOT to be kidding. She's a woman, she's lost her mealticket and now she's going to cut your nuts off in court. It doesn't have to be true for her to make the claim. Or do you think the judge hasn't heard it 1,000s of times before?

[LouLouBell23]

No, I haven't had sex with anyone other than my wife and the last date of that was in August...(I know, poor me).

However, I have had a very good nonsexual relationship with this woman that my wife seems to be obsessed with proving that I'm sleeping with. I just enjoy her company and she has been to my apartment on a couple of occasions to help me move in and rearrange furniture. I even had her over for a BBQ where she and I cooked hamburgers on my back porch. We have never had sex and there is no proof of sex so how is it that she can file for adultery on the assumption that we have based on the fact that she has only been to my apartment?

[LouLouBell23]

I don't care if she claims that I committed adultery, because I haven't. I just want to know if that is really all of the proof that she needs in order to do so. We have three small children together and I really would like to keep some kind of amicable relationship with my soon to be ex for their sake. We have hated each other for the past 5 years and she has admitted that our relationship was over long ago. Now, she is trying to benefit herself finanically by having the divorce based on adultery.

[snostar]

how is it that she can file for adultery on the assumption that we have based on the fact that she has only been to my apartment?

She can file based on any legitimate cause regardless of whether or not it is true.

[LouLouBell23]

She can file based on any legitimate cause regardless of whether or not it is true.

Ok...answer me this....will the divorce be granted based on adultery because of what I have already mentioned...I've denied her claims and we are going to see a judge soon and want to know what to expect.

[ezmarelda]

I just have to say I find it odd (and a bit amusing somehow) for a man to be posting under the name LouLouBell

[Bali Hai]

No, I haven't had sex with anyone other than my wife and the last date of that was in August...(I know, poor me).

However, I have had a very good nonsexual relationship with this woman that my wife seems to be obsessed with proving that I'm sleeping with. I just enjoy her company and she has been to my apartment on a couple of occasions to help me move in and rearrange furniture. I even had her over for a BBQ where she and I cooked hamburgers on my back porch. We have never had sex and there is no proof of sex so how is it that she can file for adultery on the assumption that we have based on the fact that she has only been to my apartment?

Yes but you'll need to explain those pictures the PI has of you and her cooking hamburgers wearing nothing but a chef's hat.

[BelizeBreeze]

I just have to say I find it odd (and a bit amusing somehow) for a man to be posting under the name LouLouBell

Maybe the fact that the poster has never Identified the sex of this 'friend' explains it

[ezmarelda]

Maybe the fact that the poster has never Identified the sex of this 'friend' explains it

Hate to dispell that wonderous thought but post #7 he said "woman"

[ceara19]

I just have to say I find it odd (and a bit amusing somehow) for a man to be posting under the name LouLouBell

Could be the estranged wife trying to find out how involved a lie has to be before it is considered a fact in the court. Wouldn't be the first time or the last, unfortunately.