Lost and Confused

What is the name of your state? AL
I have been married for just over 2 years. The man I married was- or rather pretended to be- a devout Christian.Two weeks after we got married he started doing drugs and never stopped. I kept hoping and praying that he would change back into the man I married. Needless to say, he never did. The emotional torment I went through was terrible. I finally got up the courage recently to leave him. We had moved out of state, and I moved back to AL. I don't know what to do. I should've had knee surgery 8 months ago,but had no way. I'm currently trying to get help to have my surgery. I can't work until I get the surgery. I want this divorce,annulment,whatever it is. I want to forget I was ever married and having to sign Mrs. and his last name don't help. I don't want anything from him. Not one little tiny thing, just a divorce. There's another problem though. I know he will not check the mail, will not sign any papers, and will run if contacted personally. What do I do? I've never been divorced before and personally, never thought I'd even say the words. I'm lost,can anyone help me?

[Shay-Pari'e]

Do you have a legal question for us? If you want divorced, file for it.

[weenor]

Originally Posted by Shelly

What is the name of your state? AL
I have been married for just over 2 years. The man I married was- or rather pretended to be- a devout Christian.Two weeks after we got married he started doing drugs and never stopped.

Welcome to Alabama

I kept hoping and praying that he would change back into the man I married. Needless to say, he never did. The emotional torment I went through was terrible. I finally got up the courage recently to leave him. We had moved out of state, and I moved back to AL. I don't know what to do. I should've had knee surgery 8 months ago,but had no way. I'm currently trying to get help to have my surgery. I can't work until I get the surgery. I want this divorce,annulment,whatever it is. I want to forget I was ever married and having to sign Mrs. and his last name don't help. I don't want anything from him. Not one little tiny thing, just a divorce. There's another problem though. I know he will not check the mail, will not sign any papers, and will run if contacted personally. What do I do?

Make sure you are in whatever county for 6 months, the file a Petition to divorce and get him served. I you cannot get him served through the sheriff or special process server, you must then show the court that you have tried everything and the judge will issue an order allowing service by publication in the area of his last known address. Notice of the action must be published for three consecutive weeks.

I've never been divorced before and personally, never thought I'd even say the words. I'm lost,can anyone help me?

If he does not respond to the notice then you can apply for a default judgment and the court will give you everything you ask for when he doesn't show up for court. Still advise an attorney.

[weenor]

Originally Posted by ummmYa

Here is what I have done. I made my complaint. You can continue to be a loser [i.e. social misfit: a socially maladjusted person] and dispense your lower level education experience here. You, and those like you, do everyone here an injustice by even being a member of the fourm. You have nothing better to do with your time then berate people for their issues. I bet you have a few. Why not lay it out on the table loser and let all those skeletons out of your dirty little closet?

Can you comprehend that?

Oh, ya. You can't spell. It's not LOOSER, loser, it's LOSER. Get a dictionary.

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And finally. For someone that wants people to believe they have a law degree... your posts tell it like it is. 99.9% of it is garbage and I would not pay you for a bus ticket let alone legal advice... loser.

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YOU are the idiot for posting this when YOU have no idea what you are talking about. OP's initial rambling infers a question but she did not get to the point. Shay was merely pointing that out. I guessed at what OP wanted and answered based on assumption. Assumptions are often necessary given the limited form of communication we are using here. However, there is nothing incorrect about someone not assuming. Take you "stalker" self out of here.