marriage problems / advise plz?

[Hardknocks]

What is the name of your state?NY

Well here goes my long ass pathetic story . I really dont know where to start so bare with me . I dont have many friends so i guess im gonna turn to a bunch of strangers .

I got married last august...wich she really pushed for . Ever since ive known her shes been a lier . (together 6 yrs)I know it sounds kinda harsh but she lies about stupid **** , sometimes for no explainable reason .

Well we have 1 child together (2yrs old), and one on the way (2months prego) . I have a daughter from a previous realitionship (7yrs old), i was 19 then and stupid . Im going on 28 now .

Ive always kinda busted her in lies and let it go . The biggest one was right after we got married . She ran up 45K$ in debt and declared bankruptcy right before we married . I found out somthing was up....not knowing what i confronted her......she starts freaking out crying saying im gonna divorce her if she tells me . It in no way effects me , that i know of , and i was very good about it . I told her thats the last time she can lie to me , and she promised she never would again .

As i look back in time i can think of at least half a dozen times shes lied to me and i find things out later . Some of them possabley worse than what i believe them to be . But i move on with my life .

Now weve been considering moving south for better jobs . She's going to school for her masters for teaching . She hasnt gotten a job in a couple years...although we kinda need money she refuses . Actually one lie was she mailed out resumes , wich she adressed and stamped(like 20 of them)......and threw them out behind my back .

So she goes to school for a few hours on monday and wednesdays....leaves at 9-9:30am home by 12noon . Well today at the gym im working out with my buddy who mentions he saw her . He saw her 30 miles from school.....

I confronted her about it when i got home and she lied to my face again . I finally got it out of her that shes not enrolled this semester....for the last couple months.....who knows , maybe not even last semester for all i know .

I asked her why she lied to me and shes crying and says she dosnt know . I can never get ANYTHING out of her unless i have undenyable proof , wich then she has no other option to either tell me....or make up another lie i guess .

SHE EVEN MAKES UP STORYS ABOUT NEW FRIENDS SHES MADE AND WHAT THEY TALK ABOUT!!!

The wierd thing is....i told her maybe she should take a semester off because my truck is broken down....im currently laid off , and if i get called back im gonna need the car . But she said no!!?!?

I HAVE NO IDEA WHATS GOING ON!!!!!!!

my first child im 95% sure isnt mine . I was young and dumb . I asked the girl i was with at the time and she got all pissy as if i insulted her , we broke up a little after she was born......ive just acted like im clueless for almost 8 years and take her every weekend and pay her mother child support . I dont want to hurt this little girl.....i love her .

My second child , with my wife , im almost 100% sure is mine . And now theres one on the way .....wich who knows now .

I asked her where she goes every day...she says she goes to the park and sits in her car and waits to come home**************..its like between 10-30 degrees out every day here so i know shes not outside .

Is she cheating on me????? I dont know . Is this unborn baby mine???? Im having doubts bad now .

Ive been in bad depression the last couple years . I dont take anything for it , i feel its probally just me . I finally was just starting to straighten out when this happened . I was looking forward to this new child**************..nothing makes me happier than when im with my kids and were all happy having fun . That is what i was planning my future around . Having alot of kids , people i can trust and love .

This all just happened to me today , i dont have many friends like i said.....so i dont even have anywhere to go to get away .

Why would she want to marry me if shes with someone else? Maybe she isnt and theres other reasons.....but bottom line i cant trust her anymore . And she wont tell me anything .

I just feel sooooo trapped now.....im gonna have 3 kids soon . If i end up divorcing im screwed . Ill be poor . And ill never find anyone who wants that baggage . I cant just run away.....i cant be some scumbag deadbeat dad . And the kids are the ONLY thing that has rissen my spirits to keep going these last couple years .

I just have such a bad headache right now and i cant think straight or focus . I dont even know where to go from here???? What the hell do i do???
How do i find answers?

Have you thought of hiring a private investagor to follow her? Also Dna test for the childeren you are not sure about? Doesn't sound like you want to divorce so think about therapy for the both of you. Best of Luck.