Boy here it goes.. I've been married one year, we have a infant. And I live in California. My wife and I want to divorce, but she wants to use a mediator and she wants me to pay for it. The real sad part? Well she has no income, no property and wants 100% custody. My first thoughts are, well she has the position of power if we go to mediation. She will have access to free legal advice, and free attorneys. I will be paying for the mediator, which means $250 per hour. I will also pay the filing fee's.
So here's the question, taking her to court will be an option, but since my wife is a foreign national with no income, it'll almost certainly mean I pay spousal support, on top of the division community property. Also since she is a greencard holder, I'll also be held responsible if she goes on government programs? Also she is entitled to what has acrued on my property.
So the real question is what is my best solution here? Hiring an attorney to represent me might not necessarily reduce my damage. It may increase it.
Agreeing to my ex-wife's terms would seem like suicide at this point.
The other option would be just to wait and have her serve me?
Any advice anyone? Preferrably someone who's divorcing at the moment?
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So here's the question, taking her to court will be an option, but since my wife is a foreign national with no income, it'll almost certainly mean I pay spousal support, on top of the division community property. Also since she is a greencard holder, I'll also be held responsible if she goes on government programs? Also she is entitled to what has acrued on my property.
So the real question is what is my best solution here? Hiring an attorney to represent me might not necessarily reduce my damage. It may increase it.
Agreeing to my ex-wife's terms would seem like suicide at this point.
The other option would be just to wait and have her serve me?
Any advice anyone? Preferrably someone who's divorcing at the moment?
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