mediate or take my chances

[obrn]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? florida. Ihave been trying to mediate for 18months to no avail, now ex suddenly wants to know what I want,probably another stall tactic, would it be better to just go to court?

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by obrn

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? florida. Ihave been trying to mediate for 18months to no avail, now ex suddenly wants to know what I want,probably another stall tactic, would it be better to just go to court?

Without knowing what you are agreeing on, and what are your sticking points it would be impossible to give you any advice.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by obrn

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? florida. Ihave been trying to mediate for 18months to no avail, now ex suddenly wants to know what I want,probably another stall tactic, would it be better to just go to court?

If you're a woman, yes. And that's my guess because "ex" even though you aren't divorced yet want s to know what you "want". Women are typically asked what they "want" in divorce cases, not men.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

If you're a woman, yes. And that's my guess because "ex" even though you aren't divorced yet want s to know what you "want". Women are typically asked what they "want" in divorce cases, not men.

Oh good lord...usefull...NOT.

[45Frank]

Correct I asked my wife that question and never got involved I was being upright I filed and just wanted her gone, she was bad for my children and me. After the third time my Attorney wrote up the divorce and she wanted to change something irrelevant he flipped out on me and said let me handle this.
Word to the wise here. My attorney put it out in front of the Judge explaining her infantile games. She got absolutely nothing in the long run, nothing. Zero
Just be fair.

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

If you're a woman, yes. And that's my guess because "ex" even though you aren't divorced yet want s to know what you "want". Women are typically asked what they "want" in divorce cases, not men.

[mistoffolees]

Originally Posted by 45Frank

My attorney put it out in front of the Judge explaining her infantile games. She got absolutely nothing in the long run, nothing. Zero
Just be fair.

Bali will now jump in and say that you're lying and it's impossible for the woman to get nothing and for the man to get a fair deal.

Glad you got what you wanted.

[for other readers, there's a hidden lesson in there. You stated that the attorney 'flipped out' at you and said to let him handle it. While my attorney never flipped out at me, I did find that things went a lot smoother when I let her handle things and I stayed out of the way until she asked for more information. It was a lot less stressful, too. Get a good attorney and let them do their job and things will usually work out in the end.]

[45Frank]

I am a honest person extremely truthful and wanted to be fair, that was it. She played games with the whole court system and paid the price. Seven years later she still is.
As I said just be fair.

[mistoffolees]

Originally Posted by 45Frank

I am a honest person extremely truthful and wanted to be fair, that was it. She played games with the whole court system and paid the price. Seven years later she still is.
As I said just be fair.

That was my point.

The system is not perfect - I'll be the first to admit that. But, in general, people who go into the process looking for fairness will more often than not get it. People who go in looking for trouble or trying to cheat the system are likely to end up unhappy.