we live in CA, our marriage certificate says we were married in CA, but we really went to mexico with friends and got married there. is that grounds for an annulment? or can I somehow invalidate the marriage? Does CA have a common law marriage (we were "married" in 1997 but have lived together since 1987) Does it matter how it comes to an end? I have manged to save about 100k in a joint bank account and I want at least 80% (since he has not contributed) I have withdrawn nearly 35k in cash, should I continue to just slowly take my money out and keep it in cash so he can't get half ?