military divorce from illegal

[soldiers_angel]

What is the name of your state? Texas
my friend lives in texas and recently his wife left him and went home to south carolina. his wife has gone through his chain of command (he is in the military) and now decieves her "share" of the BAH and child support. she will not allow him to have the child for visits at all. she is illegally in this country and i am thinking maybe she was looking for a victim. they were married, but he lived overseas for most of time and like a miracle, she became pregnant right before they moved to texas, because she stopped taking her birth control even though she had tricare to cover the cost.
is there any laws to protect him?
what are the alimony and child support laws in texas? can he file abandonment. he is a young guy and is in goergia right now for training, i would just like to help him get some info so he has a heads up when he goes back to texas to file divorce.
TIA!!

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by soldiers_angel

What is the name of your state? Texas
my friend lives in texas and recently his wife left him and went home to south carolina. his wife has gone through his chain of command (he is in the military) and now decieves her "share" of the BAH and child support. she will not allow him to have the child for visits at all. she is illegally in this country and i am thinking maybe she was looking for a victim. they were married, but he lived overseas for most of time and like a miracle, she became pregnant right before they moved to texas, because she stopped taking her birth control even though she had tricare to cover the cost.
is there any laws to protect him?
what are the alimony and child support laws in texas? can he file abandonment. he is a young guy and is in goergia right now for training, i would just like to help him get some info so he has a heads up when he goes back to texas to file divorce.
TIA!!

And just who are you in this soap opera? His sex starved commanding officer?

[soldiers_angel]

lol, if you MUST know.... he served with my husband in iraq.

[AHA]

Originally Posted by soldiers_angel

and like a miracle, she became pregnant right before they moved to texas,

It only takes once, you know.

because she stopped taking her birth control even though she had tricare to cover the cost.

Maybe she didn't want to further risk her health taking BC pills, maybe she wanted a child in her marriage. It's her body, her choice what to do with it.

is there any laws to protect him?

No, but he has the right to use protection when he has sex if he doesn't want kids.

[soldiers_angel]

WOW, I have to say that you guys are really great around here. It is really nice to hear about everything except what I asked about. Apparently, I misunderstood the meaning of these message boards. I hope everyone has a great night!

[AHA]

Originally Posted by soldiers_angel

WOW, I have to say that you guys are really great around here. It is really nice to hear about everything except what I asked about. Apparently, I misunderstood the meaning of these message boards. I hope everyone has a great night!

I answered one of your question, obviously it wasn't what you wanted to hear, but that's no excuse to get huffy about.

[soldiers_angel]

I am only responding to the attitude I was greeted with. Your comments were out of line. She left him, she is keeping the baby from him. I am concerned about a friend that helped bring my husband home to me safe and in one piece. I came here to get some information to pass on to him, so he can deal with this situation. Since apparently she has alot of people giving her ideas and is making it difficult. I notice you didn't comment about her not letting him see his child. What is you insight on that, O Great One?

[AHA]

Originally Posted by soldiers_angel

I am only responding to the attitude I was greeted with. Your comments were out of line. She left him, she is keeping the baby from him. I am concerned about a friend that helped bring my husband home to me safe and in one piece. I came here to get some information to pass on to him, so he can deal with this situation. Since apparently she has alot of people giving her ideas and is making it difficult. I notice you didn't comment about her not letting him see his child. What is you insight on that, O Great One?

First of all, stop being a b, that doesn't help you here.
Second, has he taken her to court for custody or visitation?? If he hasn't, she's not doing anything wrong in denying him to see the kid. It is HIS choice and opportunity to file for those things and get legal rights to his kid. He is also free to consult with a lawyer anytime to get help with what he needs to do.

[soldiers_angel]

Again, I was responding to the attitude I recieved. If I was coming off as a "B" it was only because of your "B" attitude. I am not here to fight, argue or make enemies. I am just looking for information. If I had the answers and knew what to tell him, I wouldn't be here making an a** of myself. I don't live in Texas and not sure of the laws. We're still sorting military aspects of everything.

[AHA]

Originally Posted by soldiers_angel

Again, I was responding to the attitude I recieved. If I was coming off as a "B" it was only because of your "B" attitude. I am not here to fight, argue or make enemies. I am just looking for information. If I had the answers and knew what to tell him, I wouldn't be here making an a** of myself. I don't live in Texas and not sure of the laws. We're still sorting military aspects of everything.

You're confusing me with someone else, I didn't give you attitude. Since you hinted at the pregnancy being such a miracle, I told you that it only takes once to create a baby. You then hinted that she didn't have the right to go off the pill and get pregnant, I told you that she has every right and even gave you a couple of examples of possibly why. You then asked what law can "protect" him, I told you none and advised on what he can do to avoid having kids if he is so against having them. It's not only up to the woman to protect against pregnancy.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by AHA

You're confusing me with someone else, I didn't give you attitude. Since you hinted at the pregnancy being such a miracle, I told you that it only takes once to create a baby. You then hinted that she didn't have the right to go off the pill and get pregnant, I told you that she has every right and even gave you a couple of examples of possibly why. You then asked what law can "protect" him, I told you none and advised on what he can do to avoid having kids if he is so against having them. It's not only up to the woman to protect against pregnancy.

Well if it wasn't you, who in hell was it??

[AHA]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

Well if it wasn't you, who in hell was it??

Ask OP, I wasn't offensive, so I'm not going to accept false and rude accusations from her. Other than that, I don't care who says or does what.

edit:
I wasn't referring to you, but OP obviously seemed to think I acted in a way that I didn't, hence I don't know what invisible poster she was claiming had an attitude from the get go, but I'm not taking the fall for it.

[ceara19]

Originally Posted by soldiers_angel

what are the alimony and child support laws in texas? can he file abandonment. he is a young guy and is in goergia right now for training, i would just like to help him get some info so he has a heads up when he goes back to texas to file divorce.
TIA!!

[url]http://tlo2.tlc.state.tx.us/statutes/fa.toc.htm[/url]
This link leads to every single Texas civil law pertaining to marriage, children and family. Her residency status has nothing to do with the dissolution of the marriage or custody. However, last time I checked, South Carolina is part of the US.

Depending on how long she has been in SC, she may be able to file for a divorce there BEFORE he returns ad establish jurisdiction in SC. If that happens, Texas laws are irrelevant.

[ceara19]

Originally Posted by AHA

Ask OP, I wasn't offensive, so I'm not going to accept false and rude accusations from her. Other than that, I don't care who says or does what.

edit:
I wasn't referring to you, but OP obviously seemed to think I acted in a way that I didn't, hence I don't know what invisible poster she was claiming had an attitude from the get go, but I'm not taking the fall for it.

I agree, there is nothing RUDE about your answers. If the OP didn't want any type of "commentary" she shouldn't have brought up all of the completely irrelevant rhetoric about the wife's immigration status and the circumstances surrounding how she ended up pregnant.

[LdiJ]

Well...just a small comment in OP's defense. Most people really do think that someone's immigration status effects divorce or child custody. It also can, depending on the judge. Most of the time it doesn't, but it can. Therefore it really wasn't unnecessary rhetoric to mention that. I agree that the pregnancy is was though.