Unlikely. Talk with your JAG. The rules are set up so that military personnel can be deployed without giving up all their rights.The reason I think he wants to separate is because he is an alcoholic and hasn't worked in a year and a half. I think that if I leave he will say I abandoned them because I have said that he could never get the kids because of his alcoholism. He does not think he has a problem. He is verbally abusive and I think this may be to mentally torment me while I am away. It could also be the only way he thinks he will be able to get full custody of the children. I enlisted to make a better life for myself and my kids but never imagined he would use this as leverage to get the kids. He has used up all of our savings and retirement, and I have opened a new account he cannot have access to and is upset he will not be able to get my money while I am deployed. My mother is on my account and will pay for all the needs of my children while I am gone but will not give him money directly. I just don't know what to do as of this point. Could he really take my kids from me?
Which could cause you all kinds of problems if he pushes this. If he has custody of the children while you are away and you are not giving him money to live on and support the children it could very well look as though you have abandoned them.The reason I think he wants to separate is because he is an alcoholic and hasn't worked in a year and a half. I think that if I leave he will say I abandoned them because I have said that he could never get the kids because of his alcoholism. He does not think he has a problem. He is verbally abusive and I think this may be to mentally torment me while I am away. It could also be the only way he thinks he will be able to get full custody of the children. I enlisted to make a better life for myself and my kids but never imagined he would use this as leverage to get the kids. He has used up all of our savings and retirement, and I have opened a new account he cannot have access to and is upset he will not be able to get my money while I am deployed. My mother is on my account and will pay for all the needs of my children while I am gone but will not give him money directly. I just don't know what to do as of this point. Could he really take my kids from me?
Excellent point....and if he IS an alcoholic, and you leave the children in his care, what is that saying about YOU, and your responsibility to your children's well-being?