What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
We will be losing our house (in New Jersey) to foreclosure shortly. We have been married three years with an 11 month old son. We had been for several months living in my mother-in-laws living room in New York. For a variety of reasons, I was asked to leave, which I did, and am living with family in Connnecticut. We are doing marriage counseling, however my wife has said she wants a divorce (I basically don't know which she is serious about).
Now, she has been accomodating about me seeing my son, and I see him most days.
However, she has exerted absolute and total control over him. So she repeatedly stated a desire for me to visit on alternating days, as she has things to do and she has to "get on with her life." ( I call her every day asking to be able to come over, and most days she consents). She finds excuses to give me his SSN number (a relative wishes to buy him a savings bond, and his card in her mother's safe deposit box), or the name and address of his new pediatrician. She has already booked a trip to Florida with our son and her mother (the first time it was booked, I was invited to come along if I wanted to. She eventually cancelled it, not because of my outrage, but because we needed money to eat. But a few months later she used money that was given to us by my father to book again, and this time I was not invited). She is also planning a trip to Puerto Rico with our son and her mom to visit family there (again, no invitation forthcoming to me).
There are a lot of other issues which caused a lot of problems. I don't want to rock the boat if keeping things on an even keel can help develop a reconcilliation (she tends to get a bit defensive and upset when I do question about things). Its been a stressfull and joyous 2008 for both of us. But to what extent does my aquiesence to her control and decision making with respect to my son make it look like I am a disinterested parent to a court? To what extent does her actions make her look bad? And since all this is occurring completely around her family, with no real witnesses on my end, does keeping a journal about visits written in a dayplanner purchased at Staples have any relevence anywhere? What should, and should not be written in it? Does my wife have the right to take my son to Florida for a week without my okay (I am not worried about her not returning)? Do I have the right to take him to visit my folks for a few hours out of state without hers (I am not out traumatise him as he is much more familiar with her side of the family than mine, and he would be returned)? I guess I am rambling here.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
We will be losing our house (in New Jersey) to foreclosure shortly. We have been married three years with an 11 month old son. We had been for several months living in my mother-in-laws living room in New York. For a variety of reasons, I was asked to leave, which I did, and am living with family in Connnecticut. We are doing marriage counseling, however my wife has said she wants a divorce (I basically don't know which she is serious about).
Now, she has been accomodating about me seeing my son, and I see him most days.
However, she has exerted absolute and total control over him. So she repeatedly stated a desire for me to visit on alternating days, as she has things to do and she has to "get on with her life." ( I call her every day asking to be able to come over, and most days she consents). She finds excuses to give me his SSN number (a relative wishes to buy him a savings bond, and his card in her mother's safe deposit box), or the name and address of his new pediatrician. She has already booked a trip to Florida with our son and her mother (the first time it was booked, I was invited to come along if I wanted to. She eventually cancelled it, not because of my outrage, but because we needed money to eat. But a few months later she used money that was given to us by my father to book again, and this time I was not invited). She is also planning a trip to Puerto Rico with our son and her mom to visit family there (again, no invitation forthcoming to me).
There are a lot of other issues which caused a lot of problems. I don't want to rock the boat if keeping things on an even keel can help develop a reconcilliation (she tends to get a bit defensive and upset when I do question about things). Its been a stressfull and joyous 2008 for both of us. But to what extent does my aquiesence to her control and decision making with respect to my son make it look like I am a disinterested parent to a court? To what extent does her actions make her look bad? And since all this is occurring completely around her family, with no real witnesses on my end, does keeping a journal about visits written in a dayplanner purchased at Staples have any relevence anywhere? What should, and should not be written in it? Does my wife have the right to take my son to Florida for a week without my okay (I am not worried about her not returning)? Do I have the right to take him to visit my folks for a few hours out of state without hers (I am not out traumatise him as he is much more familiar with her side of the family than mine, and he would be returned)? I guess I am rambling here.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?