need advice for boyfriend

[jennayangel]

my boyfriend is a soldier in the us army, he is stationed(living) in fort hood, tx. He is currently sepperated from his wife of 6 years. during a previous deployment to iraq he found out that his wife was cheating on him, they decided feb 09 to end the marriage (he than was deployed again to iraq) he just came back in january 2010 to find out that his wife moved out of the house they shared together, taking with her their shared vehicle, the living room set, the entire contents of the house including his clothing and personal belongings. He is preparing to file for divorce, should he file adultery against her considering he has proof that she was sleeping with someone else while he himself was under the impression that their marrage was going fine. we have only been together since sept or 2009, well after they decided to end the marriage. if he does claim adultery against her, will it look bad on his behalf that he is also in a relationship (even though the marriage was not salvagable before we got together) and what should he do about retaining his belongings(clothing and such)

 

[Silverplum]

my boyfriend is a soldier in the us army, he is stationed(living) in fort hood, tx. He is currently sepperated from his wife of 6 years. during a previous deployment to iraq he found out that his wife was cheating on him, they decided feb 09 to end the marriage (he than was deployed again to iraq) he just came back in january 2010 to find out that his wife moved out of the house they shared together, taking with her their shared vehicle, the living room set, the entire contents of the house including his clothing and personal belongings. He is preparing to file for divorce, should he file adultery against her considering he has proof that she was sleeping with someone else while he himself was under the impression that their marrage was going fine. we have only been together since sept or 2009, well after they decided to end the marriage. if he does claim adultery against her, will it look bad on his behalf that he is also in a relationship (even though the marriage was not salvagable before we got together) and what should he do about retaining his belongings(clothing and such)

Is it really true that there's no such thing as a stupid question??

 

[Antigone*]

my boyfriend is a soldier in the us army, he is stationed(living) in fort hood, tx. He is currently sepperated from his wife of 6 years. during a previous deployment to iraq he found out that his wife was cheating on him, they decided feb 09 to end the marriage (he than was deployed again to iraq) he just came back in january 2010 to find out that his wife moved out of the house they shared together, taking with her their shared vehicle, the living room set, the entire contents of the house including his clothing and personal belongings. He is preparing to file for divorce, should he file adultery against her considering he has proof that she was sleeping with someone else while he himself was under the impression that their marrage was going fine. we have only been together since sept or 2009, well after they decided to end the marriage. if he does claim adultery against her, will it look bad on his behalf that he is also in a relationship (even though the marriage was not salvagable before we got together) and what should he do about retaining his belongings(clothing and such)

Your "boyfriend" is committing adultery as well. "Boyfriend" should deal directly with his wife about belongings, and if she does not want to return his items it will have to be dealt with in the divorce.

Since you didn't tell us what state boyfriend is in we cannot comment on how it will "look" that both parties committed adultery.

 

[ecmst12]

Not only that, but adultery is a crime in military law. He could actually do serious damage to his career if it comes out that he has a girlfriend before his divorce is final.

 

[Proserpina]

Is it really true that there's no such thing as a stupid question??

I just lost two points again....

 

[Radia]

How on earth can you expect the court to hold her responsible for having an affair and not your boyfriend?

The military could have a heyday with this,,,

What "PROOF" does he have that she was sleeping with someone else?

The belongings should be dealt with in the Divorce.

 

[jennayangel]

he lives in tx, no the military does not exactly prosocute for adultery anymore, and if it did HER boyfriend would be in heaps of trouble as weel, as he is a cheif warrent officer. and as for proof,other than pictures, emails, texts, and a personal statement from one of her previous "companions"... it about covers it.and i didnt feel it was a stupid question considering after the tons of research we have done, most websites are saying that judges usually go upon whether or not the adultery actually caused the divorce & in regards to him & i, it did not. they were seperated 7+ months before he moved on.

 

[jennayangel]

also, there is nothing that can be done in the fact that he returned from depolyment to find his belongings gone?

 

[ecmst12]

The military isn't going to throw him in prison for it, but they COULD discharge him. Don't know if they WOULD or not, but the laws are on the books, they frown on it.

And is wife's boyfriend married? If not, they aren't as likely to care.

 

[jennayangel]

her boyfriend is divorced (due to them messing around) and that is who she currently resides with.

 

[Proserpina]

he lives in tx, no the military does not exactly prosocute for adultery anymore, and if it did HER boyfriend would be in heaps of trouble as weel, as he is a cheif warrent officer. and as for proof,other than pictures, emails, texts, and a personal statement from one of her previous "companions"... it about covers it.and i didnt feel it was a stupid question considering after the tons of research we have done, most websites are saying that judges usually go upon whether or not the adultery actually caused the divorce & in regards to him & i, it did not. they were seperated 7+ months before he moved on.

Um...yes, yes they do.

But that's besides the point really.