Need to know what I can do now? SOS

[dianealmond]

Divorce in OHio...now reside in NC.
I sure hope that someone in the know can give me some info on what I personally can do in this situation...being in NC...and all of this happening in Ohio otherwise I am at the mercy of a bad attorney who has no qualms in having me hung out to dry as she has in the past who has only been working against me rather than for me. I will not expound on the nightmare of this divorce proceeding for 9 months...for now..I need HELP to do with whats happening or rather NOT happening..and HOW myself can intercept to get this all finalized and monies transferred as granted in the final divorce hearing. Am racking my brains..and to leep contacting my attny doesnt cut it..
At the final contested hearing (I the plaintiff) 1st days of Oct. accepted a separation agreement with my back up against the wall financially since my attorney said that the judge would sign off the next day and the decree would be recorded/filed in a couple of days max...and the next day after that the rollover of half of husband's IRA would commence to be rolled over into my own IRA rollover acct. SO what I find out instead is that attny has nt done anything and infact is off on vacation. NOTHING being done as she informed me to learn there is a different process to this all. SHe has sent a draft decree to my husband and he has returned it via mail xing out numerous errors in his eyes...and now HIS attorney is on vacation. His attorney will not do anything til he does the QDRO for my husband's retirement pension..and of course I sure as heck have not recvd anything..or will I... knowinghow I have always been in the blind. I can imagine the time this will alll take to get the final decree filed/recorded and to further my alarm I have found out that the judge's desk is piled to sky high.

To make matter worse my husband is balking at sending me support for Nov...yet he has cancelled my medical dental under his plan before divorce is legally final. Have contacted the managing company for IRA rollover that says my husband can just send a letter of instruction to them to rollover funds as per decree from his account to mine...without need of copy of final decree but he insists he will not...which leaves me in a horrid position havng to close on a lease option for buying a house cash or I lose $11,000. My attny I can not count on...as she only has given me grief and will soon be filing a grievance against her for good reasons. I've asked my ex/husband if he could ask his attny kindly to expedite..and am told by husband/ex that me asking such just gets his attny fired up...and he will only delay..My abusive husband of 32 yrs is LOVING This all...
I am in such a bad way here with an ineffectivel counse...who doesnt know the word diligence or what the meaning of representing means and cold care less if I bear even more financial demolition on my side. I have NO funds to hire an attorney to take over and would imagine that would only stall things even further.
I know of one paralegal who works for a bankruptcy attny in that town...but what can she do for me?
What can I do?? I am sorry for reposting..I am sorry for bugging. Truly
Diane ... in a leaking ship about to sink ....LOL

[BelizeBreeze]

There is absolutely nothing in your post that points to ineffective council or any wrongdoing by your attorney.

[dianealmond]

I dont know how you figure a lawyers WORD of three days while she basks in the sun in the high sierras and not doing a dan thing...and now 2 weeks and running with six months a possibity as NOTHING WRONG IN HER DOING on top of all else?
Hey maybe your COLD seemingly yuppy arrogant reasoning IS reality..the way the greedy legal system is...where oathes are nothing but hype....justice is only for superman comedy hour. ..all a big politcal machine where judges, lawyers and politicians are all in bed with one another...and the average america is still a sap believing in the american way. I better be nice...cause who knows...you may be our future president of the good ole USA...the way things are going...God help us all.