Carmen1234
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
I have been married 4 years. 2 kids one of which is from a previous relationship. Husband has mental issues. He is a vet and has ptsd among other issues. Very Controlling, mood swings. I get accused of aweful things. He is suspicious of everything I do. I cant take to long at the store and he follows me to every room to see what im doing. Im walking on egg shells constantly and so are my children. My oldest is baring the brunt of it emotionally right now. She has gone to the school counselor and spoke to them about how sad she is and how bad her step dad treats her. Bottom line is I want OUT. In VA you have to be seperated 1 year before you are eligible for a divorce. IF I could leave from our apartment we share I would. I have nowhere to go and no money to fall back on to get me and my girls out of this mess I have gotten us in. HE refuses to leave, I have asked him, begged and pleaded. Told him we can work out visitation arrangments etc. There is no reasoning with him at all and I have tried it all to get him to please listen. He is not from here, he has no family here they are all in another state which he could easily move back to. His parents would welcome him in with open arms but he will not budge. I cant stop crying because I feel so trapped.
There is just a level of emotional abuse here that is undescible and that I cant prove to a court of law. I dont want a negative drawn out divorce I just want to stop walking on egg shells in my own house and protect my kids from further damage.
Is there anything I can do? Please, please help me.
I have been married 4 years. 2 kids one of which is from a previous relationship. Husband has mental issues. He is a vet and has ptsd among other issues. Very Controlling, mood swings. I get accused of aweful things. He is suspicious of everything I do. I cant take to long at the store and he follows me to every room to see what im doing. Im walking on egg shells constantly and so are my children. My oldest is baring the brunt of it emotionally right now. She has gone to the school counselor and spoke to them about how sad she is and how bad her step dad treats her. Bottom line is I want OUT. In VA you have to be seperated 1 year before you are eligible for a divorce. IF I could leave from our apartment we share I would. I have nowhere to go and no money to fall back on to get me and my girls out of this mess I have gotten us in. HE refuses to leave, I have asked him, begged and pleaded. Told him we can work out visitation arrangments etc. There is no reasoning with him at all and I have tried it all to get him to please listen. He is not from here, he has no family here they are all in another state which he could easily move back to. His parents would welcome him in with open arms but he will not budge. I cant stop crying because I feel so trapped.
There is just a level of emotional abuse here that is undescible and that I cant prove to a court of law. I dont want a negative drawn out divorce I just want to stop walking on egg shells in my own house and protect my kids from further damage.
Is there anything I can do? Please, please help me.