Sarah Jane
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Montana
My husband and I have been together for 11 1/2 years and married 8 of those. We have a 2 year old and a 4 year old. We have had more tragedy in our marriage than most endure in a life time. We've had the loss/death of three children, each of us have lost a parent to cancer, not to memtion other close family members, etc. We almost divorced after we lost our three children to premature labor. He and I have lost something and I feel like I just want out; however, I am scared to make any moves. We ranch and I only have a part time job 9 months out of the year and am a stay at home mom. I would not be able to support my kids and myself alone. Really, he has total control of our finances, etc. I live in a small rural area of only 200 people. The nearest town is 45 minutes away. My kids idolize their dad and the thought of a divorce and what it would do to them breaks my heart. I am afraid of the power he would hold over me and that he may try to take my boys. I do love my husband but I don't think I am IN LOVE with him anymore. He is always working on the ranch and we don't see a lot of him and when we do the boys have brief time with him due to bedtimes etc., and when he is home he and I hardly talk, sex maybe 1 time in four months, and he is either on the phone, watching t.v., working on the computer, or asleep. There is not much communication UNLESS he needs me to help him. What would happen if we got a divorce or do we seperate? If so, how does that work and where do I go? What about my kids? That would kill me if he took them. I don't think he would play dirty but he is very smart and knows alot about the legal system and law and I worry that he would make sure he got things done his way no matter what.
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My husband and I have been together for 11 1/2 years and married 8 of those. We have a 2 year old and a 4 year old. We have had more tragedy in our marriage than most endure in a life time. We've had the loss/death of three children, each of us have lost a parent to cancer, not to memtion other close family members, etc. We almost divorced after we lost our three children to premature labor. He and I have lost something and I feel like I just want out; however, I am scared to make any moves. We ranch and I only have a part time job 9 months out of the year and am a stay at home mom. I would not be able to support my kids and myself alone. Really, he has total control of our finances, etc. I live in a small rural area of only 200 people. The nearest town is 45 minutes away. My kids idolize their dad and the thought of a divorce and what it would do to them breaks my heart. I am afraid of the power he would hold over me and that he may try to take my boys. I do love my husband but I don't think I am IN LOVE with him anymore. He is always working on the ranch and we don't see a lot of him and when we do the boys have brief time with him due to bedtimes etc., and when he is home he and I hardly talk, sex maybe 1 time in four months, and he is either on the phone, watching t.v., working on the computer, or asleep. There is not much communication UNLESS he needs me to help him. What would happen if we got a divorce or do we seperate? If so, how does that work and where do I go? What about my kids? That would kill me if he took them. I don't think he would play dirty but he is very smart and knows alot about the legal system and law and I worry that he would make sure he got things done his way no matter what.
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?