What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia
Here is the situation.
Married July 2006. Separated since July 2008. No kids. The marriage was a nightmare from the beginning. She talked about divorcing several times. I told her I wanted a divorce at the beginning of June. She moved out, then moved back in at the end of June. I moved out July 11 2008.
In May, before everything went down, and in poor judgment, I began a relationship with a married woman, who was in an identical situation, except she has a 2 1/2 yr old son. The father never took interest in the child, or the wife for that matter, hit the mother in front of the child on one occasion, was more interested in drinking with his buddies, started fights, etc. She had been planning on leaving him for 2 yrs, and secured a job with the goal of making enough money to get out of there. She finally moved out July 11th as well.
We have had a relationship ever since the separations and I have a great relationship, although a limited and careful one, with the child. I am not around the child much, and we are not openly affectionate around him. As far as he knows I am just another friend, like the many friends of hers that he is around (co-workers, etc.). When I have spent the night at her place while the child was there, I always arrived after he was asleep, and left before he woke up. He goes down about 7:30 pm and gets up about 7 am. She lives 1 1/2 hours from me, so it is better for me to spend the night.
In VA, I have to wait 6 months to get a divorce, and she has to wait 1 yr because of the child. Now, all of a sudden, the father has done a 180, become a "boy scout," and taken a renewed interest in the life of the child. I have a feeling he is going to want to squeeze me out of the picture as far as the child is concerned.
Seeing as how I am the one who finally moved out in my marriage, and she is the one that left hers, and we had a relationship with each other before we actually moved out, which is adultery (yes there was a physical relationship), what should I be prepared for regarding how often I can be around the child? What is the law in VA regarding paramours and children?
I know the situation doesn't reflect well upon me or the mother, but it is what it is. Just want to know what to expect as far as the Virginia law is concerned if the father doesn't want me in the son's life. What can I expect before, and after the divorce? (hers and mine).
Any insight regarding the law in VA would be greatly appreciated.
Here is the situation.
Married July 2006. Separated since July 2008. No kids. The marriage was a nightmare from the beginning. She talked about divorcing several times. I told her I wanted a divorce at the beginning of June. She moved out, then moved back in at the end of June. I moved out July 11 2008.
In May, before everything went down, and in poor judgment, I began a relationship with a married woman, who was in an identical situation, except she has a 2 1/2 yr old son. The father never took interest in the child, or the wife for that matter, hit the mother in front of the child on one occasion, was more interested in drinking with his buddies, started fights, etc. She had been planning on leaving him for 2 yrs, and secured a job with the goal of making enough money to get out of there. She finally moved out July 11th as well.
We have had a relationship ever since the separations and I have a great relationship, although a limited and careful one, with the child. I am not around the child much, and we are not openly affectionate around him. As far as he knows I am just another friend, like the many friends of hers that he is around (co-workers, etc.). When I have spent the night at her place while the child was there, I always arrived after he was asleep, and left before he woke up. He goes down about 7:30 pm and gets up about 7 am. She lives 1 1/2 hours from me, so it is better for me to spend the night.
In VA, I have to wait 6 months to get a divorce, and she has to wait 1 yr because of the child. Now, all of a sudden, the father has done a 180, become a "boy scout," and taken a renewed interest in the life of the child. I have a feeling he is going to want to squeeze me out of the picture as far as the child is concerned.
Seeing as how I am the one who finally moved out in my marriage, and she is the one that left hers, and we had a relationship with each other before we actually moved out, which is adultery (yes there was a physical relationship), what should I be prepared for regarding how often I can be around the child? What is the law in VA regarding paramours and children?
I know the situation doesn't reflect well upon me or the mother, but it is what it is. Just want to know what to expect as far as the Virginia law is concerned if the father doesn't want me in the son's life. What can I expect before, and after the divorce? (hers and mine).
Any insight regarding the law in VA would be greatly appreciated.