Prepare 4 Divorce

[Lsunshine]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

Have proof of husbands adultry but want to prepare before confronting him. He controls the money and I have suspicion that he has secret accounts and will pull all monies and hide. Any advice on how to prepare not just financially before confronting him?

 

[Just Blue]

Why do you think that his infidelity will matter to the Judge?

 

[CourtClerk]

I have suspicion that he has secret accounts and will pull all monies and hide.

You better have proof of that before you do anything. Suspicions are as good as wet foodstamps.

 

[mistoffolees]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

Have proof of husbands adultry but want to prepare before confronting him. He controls the money and I have suspicion that he has secret accounts and will pull all monies and hide. Any advice on how to prepare not just financially before confronting him?

Don't confront him at all. File for divorce and ask for complete discovery of all financial assets. You may need a forensic accountant if your husband is very skilled at hiding money.

Adultery is completely irrelevant in CA as far as divorce proceedings are concerned.

 

[Lsunshine]

Definately have proof, not just on one, I have several and was shocked. Just want to get my ducks in a row before all hell breaks loose if you know what I mean.

 

[CourtClerk]

Definately have proof, not just on one, I have several and was shocked. Just want to get my ducks in a row before all hell breaks loose if you know what I mean.

If you have proof, then you have no suspicions, you have PROOF. Your statements are contradictory.

However, if you have all the proof you need, then file for divorce. There is an automatic restraining order that goes into effect once he is served with prohibits the transferring of marital property (which includes his bank accounts) - presuming there was money deposited during the course of the marriage. Even then, he will have to have the court declare those accounts separate property.