Gravity_11
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What is the name of your state?Texas
My wife decided to leave me on Sept. 11th.
We have 3 boys, 8,6 and 9 months
She left the two older boys with me (she claims she wants them to finish school) and took the baby. But I have actually had the baby a few more days than her since she left(I've been keeping track). She said she left because I'm controlling and make her feel inadequate and because she wants to "get herself together".
She had an affair which resulted in the birth of our baby, apparently he is not biologically mine but I'm the presummed father on the birth certificate. She told me about that affair when she was 1 month pregnant and I chose to stick it out. Things were going well while she was pregnant. But at 7 months I found out about another affair she had 3 years before and I didn't know if I could believe anything she said anymore...of course it hindered the healing process of finding out about the affair that led to the pregnancy. Then a couple of months after the baby was born people were coming up to me and telling me she was doing meth. I confronted her about it and she denied it. But I cut her off from getting money because I found out she was stealling it out of my pockets and getting it out of my bank account....and her behavior showed signs of meth use. The weekend of Sept. 9th she was supposidly going to a christian womens conference but actually met with the biological father and slept with him again. I found out two days later what happened and she also admitted to using meth behind my back and decided to leave...blaming me.
Sept. 14th she came to the house and started ransacking it because she was mad at my family for not talking to her when she arrived(and etc.) I was holding the baby and told her she couldn't take the baby cause she looked high and she was acting crazy. She proceeded to hit me while I was holding the baby to try to get him away from me. I called the cops and they arrested her and charged her with family violence. They wound up giving her 6 months probation and etc.
She now lives with a bunch of meth addicts and the day i took her home from her court I saw evidence of meth in her room right in the reach of the baby. Then I decided the next time I got the baby i would not let him go back and I also will not let our other two boys go over there. She claims up and down that she is not doing anything and that nothing is going on over there. The house she stays in has previously been raided before also.
She has threatened to divorce me and try to get custody of the kids...and also is threating to get a DNA test done and take my name off of the baby's birth certificate. The problem there is that the law will not find the biological father because he is already running from two or three other children he has had with different women.
Also, my wife can't drive(never really learned), has never worked, and works taking care of a disabled man now making 125 a week under the table.
What will happen if we follow through with the divorce? Will I get custody and what are my chances of being able to keep the baby if she is found unfit?
Let me add that I'm not really interested in divorcing her now, but rather petitioning for divorce to get custody of the boys. If she decides to change and get into rehab as well as getting pycological help...and actually follow through with it, I would then consider taking her back.
My wife decided to leave me on Sept. 11th.
We have 3 boys, 8,6 and 9 months
She left the two older boys with me (she claims she wants them to finish school) and took the baby. But I have actually had the baby a few more days than her since she left(I've been keeping track). She said she left because I'm controlling and make her feel inadequate and because she wants to "get herself together".
She had an affair which resulted in the birth of our baby, apparently he is not biologically mine but I'm the presummed father on the birth certificate. She told me about that affair when she was 1 month pregnant and I chose to stick it out. Things were going well while she was pregnant. But at 7 months I found out about another affair she had 3 years before and I didn't know if I could believe anything she said anymore...of course it hindered the healing process of finding out about the affair that led to the pregnancy. Then a couple of months after the baby was born people were coming up to me and telling me she was doing meth. I confronted her about it and she denied it. But I cut her off from getting money because I found out she was stealling it out of my pockets and getting it out of my bank account....and her behavior showed signs of meth use. The weekend of Sept. 9th she was supposidly going to a christian womens conference but actually met with the biological father and slept with him again. I found out two days later what happened and she also admitted to using meth behind my back and decided to leave...blaming me.
Sept. 14th she came to the house and started ransacking it because she was mad at my family for not talking to her when she arrived(and etc.) I was holding the baby and told her she couldn't take the baby cause she looked high and she was acting crazy. She proceeded to hit me while I was holding the baby to try to get him away from me. I called the cops and they arrested her and charged her with family violence. They wound up giving her 6 months probation and etc.
She now lives with a bunch of meth addicts and the day i took her home from her court I saw evidence of meth in her room right in the reach of the baby. Then I decided the next time I got the baby i would not let him go back and I also will not let our other two boys go over there. She claims up and down that she is not doing anything and that nothing is going on over there. The house she stays in has previously been raided before also.
She has threatened to divorce me and try to get custody of the kids...and also is threating to get a DNA test done and take my name off of the baby's birth certificate. The problem there is that the law will not find the biological father because he is already running from two or three other children he has had with different women.
Also, my wife can't drive(never really learned), has never worked, and works taking care of a disabled man now making 125 a week under the table.
What will happen if we follow through with the divorce? Will I get custody and what are my chances of being able to keep the baby if she is found unfit?
Let me add that I'm not really interested in divorcing her now, but rather petitioning for divorce to get custody of the boys. If she decides to change and get into rehab as well as getting pycological help...and actually follow through with it, I would then consider taking her back.
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