Refinance before Divorce started

What is the name of your state? CA

My wife wants to leave me, I believe she is cheating on me but don't want to waste the time to prove it. I have two young children that I want to keep and she has verbaly agreed to only to see them every other weekend and that I pay all the expenses of the children. Everything is under my name (Home, cars, motorcycles, debt) and she was a homemaker after college for 5.5 years she recently got a job about 1.5 months ago that allows her to sustain herself.

I wanted to refinance and pay all my debts that I have incurred during the marriage and she said she is willing to leave if I give her 10,000 now and 5,000 starting the new year. I don't want to tell her that I am refinancing because she may want to ask for more. If I refinance and give her the money after she signs the divorce paperwork is there a risk that she can go after me for the money that I cashed out extra from the home?

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Originally Posted by xikanowarrior

What is the name of your state? CA

My wife wants to leave me, I believe she is cheating on me but don't want to waste the time to prove it. I have two young children that I want to keep and she has verbaly agreed to only to see them every other weekend and that I pay all the expenses of the children. Everything is under my name (Home, cars, motorcycles, debt) and she was a homemaker after college for 5.5 years she recently got a job about 1.5 months ago that allows her to sustain herself.

I wanted to refinance and pay all my debts that I have incurred during the marriage and she said she is willing to leave if I give her 10,000 now and 5,000 starting the new year. I don't want to tell her that I am refinancing because she may want to ask for more. If I refinance and give her the money after she signs the divorce paperwork is there a risk that she can go after me for the money that I cashed out extra from the home?

**A: yes, there is that risk.

Could I possibly give the money and vehicles aways as gifts before we start the divorce and then get them back later on. Or could I get her to sign an agreement that if she takes this money she can't come after me for anything else?